my husband has not pleased me oraly for 3 years.. how do I ask for that'
2006-09-15 07:33:29 · 29 answers · asked by Dove4ever 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have a nice dinner, drink some wine, play some Barry White, and then tell him to go down on you. Or go down on him, then tell him it's his turn to go down on you.
2006-09-15 07:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say pleased do you mean he hasnt done it, or you havent climaxed from it? Ask him to please you in a way that allows you to also please yourself. For instance when he is giving you oral sex make suggestions. Tell him what feels good and even go as so far as to show him with your fingers. Once he hears your sighs of ectasy, he will be so pleased with his accomplishment he wont want to stop. Alot of men out there dont know how to really sexually satisfy a woman, because we as women do not empower our men. We think if we fake the orgasm and fake the ectasy that were nuturing their male egos when in essence were not. Giving them the ability to make our legs shake and body quiver from the thousand touches of their hands tongue and mouth is what feeds their ego. We as women we always expect our significant others to read our minds and forfill our desires. But's it's a job, and must be treated as so.
You wouldnt tell someone to build you a cabinet if they have never held a measuring stick. It is the same with your orgasm.
It takes craft and skill and the right tools. If you dont give him the tools then dont ever expect him to succeed. Show him the way and you will find that your both happy.
2006-09-15 07:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a committed relationship for a year and he has only done that once - it was great, but I am running into the same problem. He hasn't offered and I've been afraid to ask. I am going to say, "honey, will you use your tongue on me?" when he gets back from overseas. I think just getting right to the point is the best way! I hope we're both successful. :)
2006-09-15 07:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I had to teach my husband too! I have 2 suggestions:
#1) After he does it, just be like, "you know what i really like, when you do xxxxx (ie, stay in one place, do it hard, soft, whatever you like)".. Praise him when he does it good by guiding him to it!
or #2) buy a book: Make it seem you did it because it was romantic and erotic. Tell him you want him to read the oral section of the book to see if there is anything new in there for you two. HOpefully, he figure out how to really please you!
Don't let your sex life be anythign less than great b/c you can't talk to your husband. I know it's hard (believe me!) but you can find a creative way to "teach" him without hurting his feelings! :-) Good luck!
2006-09-15 07:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out ask him!!
You could even try shaving down there, the hair holds the sweat and pee smell and that is a huge turn off!
Shave up and clean up, show him what you've done and tell him WHY
Guys are a bit dense so we have to be very obvious and direct about what we want.
2006-09-15 07:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if the oral pleasure is usually something you both do then hint around go to spencers and get some flavored body oils, put on something sexy and tease him into the bedroom{or wherever u do what u do}put on some music, dim the lights, and believe me it will all come into play.
2006-09-15 07:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mixed Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, just manuever yourself into a 69 while pleasuring him. How can he say no?
By the way, you are almost a saint if you haven't cheated on him for that. i can't go 3 days without getting oral.
2006-09-15 07:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by April G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples are allowed to tell their partner what they like and dont like. I tell my man all the time the things that I want him to do and he tell s me things that he would like me to do. This works out great for us because we are not sitting around trying to figure out what the other person wants. If I was you I would sit him down and say look, lets spice up our sex life. I will tell you what I want and you tell me what you want and how you like it.
2006-09-15 07:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build up the courage and tell him what he can do better to get you off quicker. It does hurt to open up and communicate while having sex.
2006-09-15 07:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....How do you ask for it??? You say "Hey baby, I'd love it if ya went down on me...your sooooo good at it!" then push him down there and wrap your legs around his head!
One other thing....Why does that surf n snow girl think this is sick????
2006-09-15 07:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by christine a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋