i broke up with my boyfriend becuz my shrink said it............?

Question

would be best. i feel horrible now an i cant go on with out him. do you think i should ask him back?

Answer 1

yes you should however dont expect that he will take you back, why would you do something someone told you to if you didnt wat to, even your shrink shouldnt be able to influence you that much, make decisions for yourself.

Answer 2

You can lead a horse to water ...

Honey, your shrink may have suggested you leave your boyfriend, though what the circumstance was, we have no clue. Honestly though, the final decision to do so, in the end, is yours!

If you feel your shrink is right, you should. then move on, and don't look back. (I know it's hard to do, but give it some serious thought before you do)

If you feel your shrink may be giving you incorrect advise (due to homophobic tendencies - though shrinks are sworn to be neutral - it has happened where some advise their patients to suit their own satifaciton) then sit-down, draw up a plan of what changes are needed, then talk to your ex-boyfriend and share your opinions. BUT, keep an opened-mind to what is said. Then make your decision.

Again, the final decision is yours.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I've been in that place before.

If you go back, you will need to better prepare yourself to break up in the future. You'll have to address why you can't live your life without someone who is causing you trouble. The bad feelings can be overwhelming and there is medication to help you get through these awful feelings. Make sure that you are willing to go through another break-up scene all over again and that you are willing to risk that he may not want to get back with you.

I can say that in my case, things turned out well enough. He was forgotten within the year and plenty of new lousy fish surfaced to take his place.

Answer 4

You didn't give much detail, but if your shrink suggested breaking up with him, he must have had a good reason. Maybe your shrink had reason to believe this relationship was detrimental to you. If he really cares about you, why not let him ask you back?

Answer 5

Your shrink should be advising you and you should make the decision...you shrink should not be telling you what to do...what good is that going to do..you will never learn anything for yourself...get a new shrink...sounds controlling to me....

Answer 6

Shrinks who tell you what to do in your life are ethically questionable. Their job is to listen and help YOU make your decisions - then help YOU deal with the consequences of your decisions. I would reevaluate the health of the relationship you have with the shrink. It's your life not theirs.

Talk with your boyfriend.

Answer 7

Probably not. If he went to a shrink and that happend, he might try to convert! His mind is all ready set from the doc? That's just farse! If you want to learn the hard way, there might be a lot of questions asked and confused minds.

Answer 8

Oh, wow. What was your shrink's reasoning? Are you still seeing him/her?

You can always try--apologizing profusely and explaining all the ways in which you were wrong--but don't be surprised if he doesn't take you back, or if he wants to move very slowly.

Answer 9

Go with what your heart tells you, UNLESS your shrink wants you for himself.

Answer 10

Well if your man hasn't cheated, beat on you, verbally abused, lied, stoled from you and treats you with respect; get back with him. Does your doctor think that you are codependent? I really can't understand a doctor telling someone to break up with their lover and its not justified. Perhaps your shrink is homophobic............

Answer 11

Why did you listen to your shrink? That doesn't make any sense.