so I like this guy, were friends and thats all, but since we stared hanging out more i've kinda got a crush on him. So one day i asked him how would he would feel if i started talking to other people(men that is). I didnt mean it i just wanted to know how he felt about it or if he had feelings 4 me too. He said it wouldnt bother him "we just friends". Now his attitude towards me has pretty much changed. We dont hang at all anymore and he is short with me on the phone. so if it didnt bother him why did his attitude change.
2006-09-15 07:31:56 · 21 answers · asked by content 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You played a very normal feminine tactic of asking him in a super round-about way if he liked you "more than a friend" by seeing if he would get jealous. He did get jealous: that's obvious. But, since he's a guy he wants to act all tough and he's trying to protect his feelings just in case you start going out with some other guy. I think he likes you. If you want to get something started with this guy, you need to admit to him that you have developed a crush on him. If he rejects you, you won't lose anything anyway. Good luck.
2006-09-15 07:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by JennyF 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL!!! That was the wrong question to ask. If you two were just friends he is going to play the friend role and answer the question the way a friend would. What you should have asked was something like....Would you ever consider dating me? Why not just be up front with him. You probably made him feel akward since your saying he is treating you differently. I dont agree with dating friends anyhow!
2006-09-15 14:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by babymomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm sure it bothered him but he didn't want to let on.... did he know how you felt about him before you started seeing someone else? If not maybe you should tell him because it sounds like you both have feelings for each other... Just stop beating around the bush and hurting one another and be happy together...God luck..
2006-09-15 14:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by brutalA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well instead of asking him how he feels about you : you chose to play a game with him & now he's playing it back with you. That is why he has changed . Becareful how you say things , Just ask what you got on your mind.. Like do you like me more than a friend. Less hastle that way!
2006-09-15 14:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys lie. It did bother him. But that is because he likes you. So now you have to be bold. Find out if he likes you. Tell him one day exactly, no tell him these exact word ehhh-
'I use to have a really nice friend and i don't know where he has gone. I miss him. I don't know what i did but he just stopped being nice to me'
If things don't do back to normal he is a loser.
2006-09-15 14:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have been crshing on you and he took your question as a sign that you are not interested inhim. He is cutting his losses, which is normal. What you would need to do to get him back is bring the relationship back up a level. Tell him you talked to other guys and realized that he's the one you like. Keep in mind that you may have already lost him. Act fast!
Best of luck!
2006-09-15 14:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Billy! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he thinks that you like him, or at least see more in the friendship than he does. you don't really ask a guy friend if its okay to talk to other guys. maybe he doesn't like you as more than a friend which is why he's trying to distance himself a little. at least for a while.
2006-09-15 14:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he prob. got the hint that you like him and is trying to avoid you cause he may not feel the same tell him exactly how it is it can only go two ways
horrible or great!!!!
2006-09-15 14:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by verena s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,honey you was not wrong. but he is wrong for treating you that way. he may feel a little jellousy, cause your interrest have moved in a new direction. this is the "new age". would it hurt you to ask him out? maybe thts what he really wants.
2006-09-15 14:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by tara h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cause wat was he suposed to say, as far as he is concerned your just friends and it would be a bit much to say yeah it bothers him that you talk to other people, but since he figures u have found someone else than he is gonna lay off, cause I know I hate it when my girl has "guyfriernds" that aren't gay
2006-09-15 14:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋