My husband and i seperated for 3 months and now we are back together. When we got back together he swore on our daughters life he didnt sleep with anyone during the time we were seperated. Come to find out from a close friend of his he did sleep with another girl. Him sleeping with another girl dont bother me as bad as he lying and most of all he swore on our daughters life! :(
2006-09-15 07:29:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were seperated at the time. I would say to ask yourself if you can forgive him and how much do you love him. If you can't forgive him and move on it will ruin your relationship. If you really love him forgive him tell him if he EVER does something like that again your relationship is finished and move on. Don't bring it up ever again.
If you think you can't forgive move on. Life is to short to be unhappy.
2006-09-15 07:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by floridadevils2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What???? Are yo insane!! Well the best advice I have is GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING ASAP! You will have a very hard time getting over the fact that he swore on your children's lives!!!!!!!!!! as well as the fact that he cheated! MAybe you should have too! No just kidding. well i really feel for you, but you should really not rely on a bunch of stranger so thelp you through this. Get counseling,,,soon. You would not to confuse your children if you keep on with the on off again relationship!! The very best of luck to you!! Keep strong, never let a man get the best of you!!Take care of yourself and your kids.
2006-09-15 14:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he now admitting that he slept with someone else or r you just relying on what you have been told? HOW does your friend know this for sure? was she there? Maybe he went on a date but that doesnt mean he slept with her! U cant always rely on what others think and say- sometimes u have to put trust in your marriage and hope for the best! Good luck to u
2006-09-15 14:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd confront him with the information. He may deny it or fess up to it. If he denies it, I guess you need to decide who you trust more -- your husband or the close friend. If he fesses up, then I'd press him to find out why he lied. I've been married for 8 years, and if I found out my husband cheated and then swore on the life of our kids that he didn't, I'd show him the door. Good luck!!
2006-09-15 14:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sassafrass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser. However, f I were a man I would have lied and said I didn't sleep with anyone because I knew you would be pissed off at me. Anyway, forget about it and continue on with your marriage. I would just forget about it and keep working on the marriage. If it sucks, get a divorce and move on to the next!
2006-09-15 14:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by robotprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have lied, because he thought you might have been pissed that he did sleep with anyone. Would you have been?
If the answer to that question is no I would not have been pissed, then you might want to tell him that. And tell him you did not appreciate him swearing on your daughters life.
He might have been scared you would have been pissed
2006-09-15 14:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by purplejoyv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he slept with someone while you were separated. Why were you surprised? And of course he lied cuz he knew you would be upset if he told you the truth.
2006-09-15 14:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lied because it was easier than listening to you argue with him. Yes it was VERY wrong. But if your willing to make your marriage work, then you have to forgive and forget!
2006-09-15 14:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by danabriggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, dont swear on anyones life... that's dumb kid crap. Secondly, you have every right to be hurt, dont leave him though... make him earn your trust back, through his actions, not just words.
2006-09-15 14:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by GoWhitey33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it were me, I would kick his butt to the curb and tell him why. But then again, that's just me. You have to do what's right for you; I'm not in your shoes. Good luck; I will pray for your situation.
2006-09-15 14:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋