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Ok, my sister is 26 w/ 2 girls ages 7 & 3.She planned both pregnancies but for some reason tries to deny it now. I'm 23 & 36 wks preg w/ my first. It's a boy. She was really bummed that I'm having a boy cuz her and her bf really wanted a boy. Since this is my first AND it will be the first grandson for my mom AND the "baby of the family" of over 30 grandkids to my grandma... naturally I'm the center of attention & I must admit that I like it. Well my sister just announced that she's pregnant !! She HAD to have planned it. In the past couple mos she's been saying every month that she's getting prego signs. The way I see it, when girls think theyre preg every month it's cuz they want to be. She told me straight out that her bf doesnt "use anything" when they have sex. Do you think I'm over reacting? We get along very well but I just know she did this on purpose. I think she kinda felt bad that her bf was getting happy about having a boy around since she has girls only.

2006-09-15 07:28:34 · 20 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

20 answers

both of you are acting childish

2006-09-15 07:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0 1

Don't waste your energy thinking about it. Getting attention while you are pregnant is fun and it is wonderful that you feel so special. The real thing to be focusing on is relaxing and taking it easy. Your child will be special, regardless of whether he is 1st or 50th. The order he arrives makes no difference and you should not place so much importance on that Just hope for a healthy baby (for you and your sis) and concentrate on you right now. In a few short weeks you will be a Mom and your world will not be all about you anymore. All of the attention will dwindle and you will be home, tired and probably smelling like spit up. Don't waste your energy on such silliness, you are a Mom now, start setting the good example. Good luck to you!

2006-09-15 07:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0 0

I know the feeling im 34 weeks pregant with a boy. My boyfriends sister has two girls and was very mad when she found out it was a boy. It will be the first boy of the grandchildren on his side. She still insists its a girl when shes seen the aultra sound pictures. She told me she was brining a dress to my baby shower. (she never came) I like her alot and im GALD its a boy! Being the center of attention is great I would soke it up all you can! Your sister is probley pregnant with another girl. If not than our little one will have a little cousin to play with. So ether way its a good thing. I know were your comming from. Good luck to you!

2006-09-15 07:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0 0

There's no reason to be mad, really. She won't be due for MONTHS after your baby is here, so enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and enjoy your baby when he gets here. Then you and your sister will have that "mommy bond" in addition to the "sister bond" that you already have, and your children will be able to grow up side by side! Enjoy that! My children have been my parent's only grandchildren until about a year ago, when my sister in law and brother had a baby boy. Only, my kids won't be close to that cousin because we live in different states (plus, they're all so much older). I hate that for my kids. One of my most enjoyable memories of my childhood is being so close to my cousins. I think maybe the pregnancy hormones just have a hold of you right now... things will be ok, I'm sure! :)

2006-09-15 07:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by mamafence 2 · 0 0

Don't be too upset with her. She might have decided to have this baby because you were having one, but I doubt she did it with spite in her heart. It is fun to be the center of attention, but it's fleeting. After the baby comes you might feel like nobody cares about you at all. Everyone is cooing over the baby and mom sometimes gets forgotten, or just seen as 'the baby's mom.'

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and look forward to your son having a cousing so close to his own age. Don't let something petty hurt your relationship with your sister.

2006-09-15 07:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0 0

Hmmm............I think that you may be making too much out of it. It's understandable though, being that you're 26 weeks pregnant. I can't understand why they aren't married yet. How can you plan three children but you can't make a commitment to each other. I know, off topic and you didn't ask for that. I think that you should really pity her because she's so desperate for attention that she's willing to get pregnant to take the focus off of you. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy.

2006-09-15 07:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0 0

I think you are not over reacting. She is doing this because you are having a baby now. Its your 1st baby and you should get the attention wright now. I have a daughter she is 8 yrs old also. She should be happy for you and let you feel how it is to have a baby. she is trying to rian on your party. she is really even having another baby or she just saying this to get some attention too?

2006-09-15 07:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Snug 1 · 0 0

It sounds like a little bit of jealousy. You are getting all the attention and she is getting none. Now she will get some attention too. Do sweat it, enjoy your pregnancy and don't worry about the small stuff. everything will work itself out. It does sound like she did this on purpose, but who cares, you're having a baby, indulge in moment.

2006-09-15 07:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by ☺Smiley☺ 5 · 0 0

I understand your frustration. Sometimes we feel jealous of others but we like to feel that people are jealous of the things we have. It's just in our nature.
i think you were enjoying the attention of having the new baby and are a little upset that she's pregnant now..It sounds to me like she planned it. Certainly she's asking for it if she's "not using anything."
It may be a little tough for you to accept right now, but maybe it's a cool thing. If she has a boy they'll be able to hang out and play. It's nice to have lots of cousins around - - you should know whit that large family! :)
Anyways, keep your chin up. Be happy for your sister and support her in her decisions as I'm sure she has supported you.
Take care of yourself and your precious bebe. Good luck with this and congrats and your soon-to-be new bundle of joy.

2006-09-15 07:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First, congrats to you! No, you're not being selfish or over reacting. It sounds like old fashioned sibling rivalry between you and your sister. She sounds jealous because you're getting the attention now that you're pregnant and that's what SHE was used to. Like she's trying to steal your thunder. She should be happy for you instead of trying to make it all about her.

2006-09-15 07:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by gemchic81 3 · 0 0

I can see why that would upset you. It kind of seems that your sister is jealous of your having a boy and getting the spot light so she wants desperatly to get pregnant so that she can be in the spot light. Don't let her jealousy spoil your joy. It's her problem if she's that insecure and wants to be petty. You deserve you enjoy being the spot light especially with this being your first child! Congrats on your soon to be arrival!

2006-09-15 07:37:33 · answer #11 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 0 0

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