No, please don't say I am a whore or a slut. This hurts me a lot. In my life I had only had sex with two men... my Ex-boyfriend and my husband (with whom I have been wed just a few days ago). In fact, I am now in a very problematic situation, as my Ex just won't set me free even though he knows I am now very much married. He comes daily to my & my husband's house just to force me to have sex with him. (Though later on, the forcing is no longer needed as I have started giving in to his desires... coz he has aroused me sexually when he humiliated my husband during a confrontation). My Ex is so good in bed I easily forget I am married when he is romancing me. I really wanna stop what's happening as I love my husband very much (he is a good & decent man), but he cannot satisfy me sexually as much as my bad Ex can. Another issue is that I am pregnant with my Ex's baby... & so my Ex feels that I am completely his. My husband is not aware of my pregnancy up to now. I'm confused. Please advice
2006-09-15 07:28:15 · 44 answers · asked by Len Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U don't want to be called a whore and yet you're acting like one. Your husband does NOT deserve u. Why don't u give him the decency of a divorce so he can find a woman that will respect him as a person cause a decent man like him doesn't deserve a woman who can't stand up for herself and has no idea what marriage is about.
2006-09-15 07:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to be a "good wife", you never would have made this mistake more than once. It never should have happened the first time, but evidently you didn't regret it too much, since you keep jumping back in the sack with the ex. If you are really sorry for what has happened, do your husband a favor, and leave the marriage! Why would he want to raise a child conceived with someone else while you two were together? Love will only take a man so far. If he has any respect for himself, he will leave you anyway when he finds out.
2006-09-15 07:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Josh H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to be a good wife to your husband now is to admit you are pregnant with your ex-boyfriend's baby and tell him you haven't broken it off and you know it! It was a big mistake to marry with all this hanging over your head. You have ruined any chance of trust between you and your husband and I feel sorry for him. Keep these secrets and you will never have any self-respect either. Give him an annullment and go back to your ex-boyfriend. What else is there left to do? What a horrible mess!
2006-09-15 07:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pathetic. You are making us decent women look bad. An EX is an EX for a reason. So what he's better in bed you didn't marry him did you now. Maybe your husband will become better with time. I had an ex that was excellent in bed but I wouldn't give in to him if I was happy with my husband. Yea I think about our sex but I just don't go there with him. Leave your EX alone!! How can you say you love your husband...from the sounds of it you don't. That's not what love is about. What if he was doing this to you. Tell him (ex) to stop coming around. Don't do this to your husband he sounds like he doesn't deserve this treatment. I hope he leaves your skanky butt and gets himself a real woman!!
2006-09-15 07:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you like being in this position, as you have tailor-made this situation. You could certainly continue on this path, but I know how difficult it may be to keep things together emotionally or mentally. It may be hard to cut off things with your ex, but who knows...maybe you might have to! How many months pregnant are you? If you want to cut it off with your ex, you could terminate the pregnancy if it's early enough; or, you could leave your husband for the ex. However, if he is your ex, there's probably a good reason why he is an Ex-boyfriend and not your husband! I would stick with your loving husband. It might be hard, but you might want to take some steps towards a positive conclusion instead of repeating negative patterns and cycles in your life. (You can find some other uncomplicated lover elsewhere, if that's what you need.)
2006-09-15 07:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by robotprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, only YOU are the one with the ability to "set yourself free". Not your ex, not anyone at all but yourself. So as things appear from your question, you don't wish to be free of him, so you need to free yourself of your very very recent husband and do it NOW!!! Anullment!! And to hell with what some dumb *** stupid religions that only men decided to kill millions centuries ago so they could tell everyone that women have to obey their husbands and all that crap!!! If religioins were actually correct, there would still be only the one that existed when Jesus was alive because one of is disipcles (Philip) is the one who actually wanted to have a religion of his own so he began Christianity. Jesus was a Jew and Judaism was the one and only religion. I mean, why are there so damned many religions now and why do they all preach something different and why is it they're all about men being in power (not true when Jesus was alive!!!) and why are they also all wrong?!!!
So get your *** to the nearest court or wherever you have to go to file for divorce or whatever you can file for and you best do it YESTERDAY!!!
One day you'll actually figure out what and who it is that you really want and who cares if it's a thousand men later and the 2 right now aren't in the picture at all.
It's your body, your life, do what you want with it, but ALWAYS REMEMBER PROTECTION!!!! You do NOT want any STD, especailly something like HIV/AIDS!!!! Oh, unwanted babies aren't fun, either!!!
2006-09-15 07:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by raquelha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that U shouldn't of said I Do & got married now you gotta Divorce Your Husband but I'd say you want your cake & you wanna eat it 2 after all now there are 2 men in your life which one do I choose.I think you should tell your new husband that you are pregent by your ex & that will solve your problem get out while you can or is it you want all this attention.The best of luck 2 u & hope you make the right choice.God Bless U.
2006-09-15 07:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex with two persons , Your ex and you hunby. YOU had enough time to see how ur ex gives you fun on sex. But you gave only 1 week to your huby to do that. . Is it fair that you give one person only one week and another person a full long time in which he can make you pregnant also.. Your Ex takes benifits from you as you dont say any thing against him and start enjoying bloody sex with him . Once you controll you self and dont allow him to play with you. You will have to work hard on youself to keep your feelings not exicited.NEXT LATER. ALL THE BEST
2006-09-17 09:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think of this. You cant have both. You aren't being very faithful to your good and decent husband. who is to say that your husband won't leave you for your unfaithfulness. It's hard being torn between two men, but you have to make a choice. Do you want love or lust? Lust only lasts so long, love lasts forever. If your husband isn't good in bed, find out how to make that better. You are only hurting yourself and your husband by cheating
2006-09-15 07:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ang~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is so problamatic. What were you thinking of when you took the vows of marriage? The truth is you had sex with your ex by your own choice. Don't try to say that you were forced in to this. Now you have created a baby with your ex, and your loving husband thinks this baby is his child? PLEASE !!! Why is your ex coming to your home? There is no reason for it. You owe it to your husband to come clean, and tell him that this baby he thinks he created with you is not his. The truth is you have not set your ex free, and have compicated 3 lives. I pray that your husband is free from your destruction, and is able to move on with his life. He is going to be emotionally scarred by your bed hopping antics.
2006-09-15 07:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by kelliem926 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋