Hi everyone. I know that everyone gives and receives gifts all the time for several different reasons. But where do you draw the line at? Recently, a friend and I chipped in money to buy a $300 cellphone for another friend's birthday (cause he needed a new one and we'd rather he save the money he was going to buy it with, for something else). After that, people have been giving me nothing but bullshit and criticism about being materialistic, saying there's so much more I can give! When we worked out things such as reasons for gifts, they still obviously have a problem with it. So I guess the real question is where do you draw the line at giving gifts!?
2006-09-15 07:27:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks for all the wonderful answers! It will take me some time to choose the best answer! But I will pick one as promised =)
2006-09-15 07:56:13 · update #1
The line is drawn only where you feel comfortable. If you want to buy something for a friend no matter the cost ( just make sure that it is not something that would make your friend uncomforitible) then you go for it. Its your money and yout heart in the gift. It is no one elses buisness on what you got for some one or how much it cost. Your gift needs only to come from the heart.
2006-09-15 07:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Parisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... you are a very nice friend to pitch in on a $300.00 cell phone as a gift! People should acknowledge that. When they start coming up to you and talk about you being materialistic... ask them... what they have pitched in to buy him...
If you are a giving person then... give... dont let others get you down because you are helping someone out. It is up to you on how much or what you can buy someone with your money. You be the one to choose where the line is drawn dont let others do it for you :-)
2006-09-15 07:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it any of their business? I think a gift should come from the heart. And if you and your other friend put your hard earned money together to buy something so thoughtful and useful for another friend you should feel good about it. Don't listen to what anyone else says. I am sure that your friend appreciates the gift and the thoughtfullness. That is what matters.
2006-09-15 07:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lyrical Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really a good idea to gift those things to ur friends which they need rather than giving them something u r not sure about whether he will ever use it or not. In this way u can help ur friend saving his money but sometimes u need to see the status of ur friend as well that whether he can afford to give u the gift of same worth or not.
He might get into complex or embarrassment if he is unable to give u sth as valuable as u gave him.
and people always criticise those whome they are jealoused of. So don't pay attention to them and see how ur friend feels abt ur gift.
2006-09-15 07:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by RK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving a gift isn't about what other people think, it's about doing something nice and special for someone that you care about. You buy a friend a gift to make them happy and to see them happy, it's not about getting anything in return, there is nothing materialistic about giving a friend a birthday present, and it's nobody else's business what you give or how much you spend!
2006-09-15 07:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even let them think that! If your friend needed one it wasn't an amazing gift! It's not like you bought him a car or anything? You know when you've gone too far when you realize that you just spent more than what's in your bank for something they might not even like. Don't give presents too often. Surprise gifts once in a while are great! And anyways I think those people are jealous! Buy them something small to and extend the hand of friendship.
2006-09-15 07:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great that you give a gift like that to a friend! If you can afford it then, by all means give give give! What other people have to say about it is their opinion, and they are entitled to it! What you are entitled to is not listening! If you feel good about the gift you gave then keep feeling good about it!
For me, when it comes to gift giving, I go with what I can afford. For friends, I spend money, but for family I make something meaning full to them. A photo collage or a home made DVD with family video clips or pictures!
What you do is up to you!!
2006-09-15 07:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 1st can you guys be my Friends. I need money on the truck note. That has gone far & beyond gift giving if you can't afford that type of money. Ithink that a birthday gift shouldn't go past $100 & this only applies to me cause of my budget. And then it has to be a really close ,life long freind. Now if you got that type of money that is you but if not you need to let your freinds know your not the bank & let them say whatever they want to.
2006-09-15 07:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did a very nice thing for your friend. You shouldn't have to draw a line. You don't want to waste the money. But just as you gave your friend something he needed you can always do that. But always spend the most money on your mom and your girlfriend.
2006-09-15 07:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
while being in social or work situations sometimes makes us less able to say no, I try to give gifts based on two things. one is what can I comfortably afford,and two do I really give a hoot for this person. Don't get me wrong, a couple of bucks for someones fruit basket is not going to break me,but if I am asked to give a large amount to someone who I barely know ,screw it!
2006-09-15 07:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋