Id say I look good enough to be considered maybe not hot but attractive. My husband and I have an incredible sex life. Its frequent and experimental. Were best friends and have a wonderful realationship. I also hapen to be bi and we have "ventured". I looking at porn with him and have even pointed hot girls out to him. He never makes comments,compares or stares. Although we have ventured is it gong to be good wnough or one day is he going to feel like he wants to venture without me?
2006-09-15 07:08:28 · 18 answers · asked by Sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh gee, the dreaded "what if's". Why are u so worried? I just answered your other question and really, u sound very insecure of yourself. Why is that? U just said on both your posts that he has given u no reason to feel this way so how much more assurance do u need from him to convince u that he wants only u? He married u didn't he?
When you're both looking at porn, chances are your husband is just fantasizing. It doesn't mean that he wants to go out there and actually do them. My husband does the same thing and I know he's just dirty talking...nothing more.
If u don't get a hold of your insecurities, sooner or later u will push him away and actually drive him to do the very thing u fear the most.
2006-09-15 07:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the rate you two are carrying on, I highly doubt he's going to want to go anywhere without you. From the way it looks, you have nothing to worry about honey. Think about it, you have a wonderful relationship and you are best friends, on top of that, sex is fantastic. Only men who lack those things, go searching for it elsewhere. Your husband isn't lacking anything. And if you think that just because the two of you venture together, there is no reason he won't venture alone....you're dead wrong. That is something the two of you do as a couple. If your relationship is as good as you claim it is, then he won't do anything to ruin that. The feelings you are having in regards to this are simply coming from the situation you put yourself into when you "venture". They are completely normal, just don't dwell on them. It will eventually start to build insecurity if you do.
I wish you well.
2006-09-15 14:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b/c u r bi doesnt mean you have to act upon it and if you have venture with him and other women than you have opened a door that should have stayed close once you get married you are committe to justhat person when you venture out you cheet your vows as hubsband and wife you sould like you have a great marriage but you are working against it you have opened a door to other women how could you b mad if he ventured w/o u you did open the door if i were u id shut that door fast and give all my attention to my husband
2006-09-15 14:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the chance you are going to have to take. It's every man's dream to be with two women, but once you have fullfilled the fantasy for him, what's next. I mean, he might get some kind of excitement if he would happen to go behind your back and mess around on you. If you are feeling insecure, maybe take a look at your lifestyle and ask yourself if this is really how you want to live.
2006-09-15 14:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been "venturing" for about a year, and it just makes us hotter for each other. Keep it hot, keep it experimental and fresh, and you shouldn't have a thing to worry about.
2006-09-15 14:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Legs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go too far......or you will go far.
He have to respect you as a woman first of all and as a wife second and if he is pointing some else in a magazine he is saying that's what I want.....just give him time.
In a relationship sex is not the most important thing. Respect and compromised is....so you do the math.
2006-09-15 14:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. It seems you should be discussing this with your husband. You need to keep lines of communication opened. When you do that then you will pretty much know what your husband will do...
2006-09-15 15:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Redina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you have pushed the limits, so he just may venture as what will keep him there as you will do anything!!!!
2006-09-15 14:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're best friends and have a great relationship, but how's your marriage? Why are you looking for someone to date this weekend? ( another of your questions )
2006-09-15 14:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by Papa John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for gods sake wo man!!!
Just appreciate what you have!!!!!!!! Do you k now how many women would love to be in your place?
Live life as it comes honey, don't worry about something you don't even know will happen
Just be happy!
2006-09-15 14:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋