seee my husban s ex wife is our next door neighbor the proerty is joined togather when they divorced they split the land any way now when he is out side she hollers for him one time so far then she use to call him just to tell him she misses him and still loves him she use to call just to say happy d ivorce anniversy and every time his friends talk to him they bring her up he says he only loves me that if he wanted to be with her he would went back and not married me. she left him he tryed to get her back but she wouldnt untill she found out about us then she wanted him back. he gets angy at me because i dont like her being next door he still loves her but he says not the way he loves me.am i wrong for feeling un confortable at home because of this.im always wondering when he is outside im inside if shes out there talking to him and if when she sees me leave if she goes out there he said he wouldnt let her but he always says evertime she does he makes it a good excuse reason am i wrong
2006-09-15 07:07:45 · 14 answers · asked by fancey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, I have a lot more respect for you now after reading your story, I could not live right next to my husbands x. I am sorry you are in this situation and no you are not too jealous, if anything you are just uncomfortable with the surroundings. I would simply explain to him him that you feel really uncomfortable and stressed over the situation and sadly in your case its your own HOME...A persons home is suppose to be a place of relaxation and comfort, not set up in a "jerry springer" like setting. If your husband truly loves you and wants you to be comfortable and to be able to look forward to coming home then its time to consider moving. I understand he may say well making me move solves nothing but if in fact you truly feel bothered by this IT SHOULD then bother him. For instance, when you love someone, when they hurt you hurt, same with this. You are uncomfortable and you are now his wife and his love and you want to move toward the future not stay in the past, and I can understand that its hard to focus on the future if the past is right next door! So please approach him with care and concern and just tell him how you feel and he may truly understand or he may not but at least you made your point. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 07:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a crazy situation! Sorry to hear that. He probably does love you differently. I would put up a large fence between your houses. Or sell the house and get a new one. He probably gets upset from frustration between the 2 of ya'll women. Jealousy is from a insecurity. You first need to be secure in your marriage. Or you and her will wind up like the ladies in Death becomes Her! I wish you luck. Just relax because it don't sound like he is leaving you for her.
2006-09-15 07:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expecting you to live next door is a little much!!! I would tell him you need to put a plan in action to move. If he has owned the place since his previous marriage there should be enough equity that you could sell and buy something elsewhere. I don't think it is unreasonable to want to have your marriage free of his past!
2006-09-15 07:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to sell the land and move NOW!!! If he really loves you he will. And honestly, Maybe you are a little jealous, any normal wife would be, I am jealous of my hubby's ex. We never talk to her anymore but just the thought the he once loved her enough to marry her eats me alive.
2006-09-15 07:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by arl21amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us women couldn't and wouldn't live that close to an ex. There would be fireworks all the time. You have every right to be jealous and angry. He sounds like he is torn between the two of you.
2006-09-15 07:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with amber if he truly loves u and wants to stay married to u then why dont he sell the damm house and move somewhere else. U hve alrite to feel that uneasy way.
Talk to him abt it hon!
goodluck!
2006-09-15 07:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong and your husband needs to put a stop to that bull b/c she's doing it on purpose and if he dodesn't I would question his love for me b/c if he did he wouldn't allow this to go on!
2006-09-15 07:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , no ur nor wrong, cause its normal that u get jealous of that cause she is doing it unpurpose, she dos not want yall together and thats whats she is trying to do, get yall separate, so talk to ur husband and tell him to put a stop to her and i suggest to move to another place . good luck and best wishes ahh and girl , do not let that b.. destroy ur marriage
2006-09-15 07:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by klaudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you talk to him about this & they make realtors every day & they can sell your house & than you won't be so insecure even though girl i would be too. but i'm better friends with most of my ex than any thing but none of them live beside me either
2006-09-15 07:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by virginia m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋