my wife and i have been married for almost 20 years, and i feel the excitement is gone from our marriage.
recently our son has been gaining an interest in women - ive caught him looking at porn, he has crushes on girls, all the usual teenage boy things, thinking about sex.
so what im trying to say is, with my wife, how do i bring up the idea of a 3 some?
2006-09-15 07:05:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, so there's you and your son, but who's the third guy? Oh, wait, it's me, isn't it. Now I'm embarrassed.
2006-09-15 07:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your son's new interest in women have to do with your relationship with your wife? I found that a very odd thing to say. Try old fashion dating...when's the last time you asked your wife out on a date? If you wife hasn't brought up the idea of a 3-some, don't go there. It'll only push her away.
2006-09-15 14:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
at 45 are u fit. at 40 is she in the menopause. u feel the excitement is gone. so why blame her.
why did u bring in ur 15 yr son in ur letter qn?
3 some with a woman or man? why not 6 some. was she lesby? did she have men when younger.
see, how many issues u have to consider.
just invite all ur men and women friends for cards etc etc dances parties.
at late middle age , take things coolly and wait for things to happen.
2006-09-15 14:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just ask her. Or try renting a porn with a little girl on girl action and see how she reacts to it. If she likes, plan a trip to the strip club for the two of you.
If she seems uncomfortable, don't push it. Some women just aren't into it. You could cause a problem by pushing.
2006-09-15 14:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the same issues and of course sexual boredom was one of them, which is common in long marriages. I suggested a threesome --hubby, me and another man. We did enjoy that a few times and still do on occassion. Hubby wanted to do the FMF, so we did that, but it wasnt very exciting as one might think--I am not bi, I have no interest in women so he had to satisfy us both--he admits its more like work than pleasure satisfying 2 women. So I dont know what you had in mind. Just ask her.
2006-09-15 14:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to get your son to come on to the mom, then 'catch' them fooling around. Your wife will feel so guilty and ashamed it'll be easy- like backmail!!
4 guys.....your getting me excited Jones
2006-09-15 14:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by arl21amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad idea. My advice borrow you kids porn and pretend you are at an orgy........ If you never had a threesome before I think this could totally backfire.
2006-09-15 14:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sophia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I seriously hope you did not mean your son, why did you bring him into this? And a threesome won't make your marriage any better. You have to fix your sexlife in other ways not with other people!
2006-09-15 14:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please don't go there. I did this for my ex-hubby after our sexlife was becomming ho-hum. The result was this: he lost respect for me, (it was his idea), it opened the door for an affair, we both lost respect for our marriage, we ended twelve mostly beautiful years of marriage, totally screwed up our kids lives.........see how sh*t rolls downhill? Try getting her to look at porn (soft) with you, try ANYTHING but that.
2006-09-15 14:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by T S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to make the marraige more like it use to be try new things in the bed room. ASK them would they ever do things like that and you will be able to tell by the reaction!
2006-09-15 14:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋