how do u get over someone u realy loved?
im going in circles...i keep seeing this ray of hope...maybe we might be frendz again...
but she hurt me so much...
anyway...im not gonna bore u with the details...
but this is taking me too damn long. i cant get over it.
help- anyone? please
2006-09-15 07:01:39 · 26 answers · asked by Sherwet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Awww, you'll be ok. This happened to me too, after a few years we started talking again and it was never the same. She ended up not being the person I thought she was. I always thought she was this strong, independent person......WRONG! She's as weak as they come. I harbor no ill will toward her, just wish she'd pull her head outta her bootie crack.
If this person is your TRUE friend, things have a way of working themselves out and you 2 will be back together and years later you'll looking back at this little bump in the road arguement and it'll all be good.
Just go on with your everyday life.......what I mean by that is Day By Day........don't think about what if's, shoulda, coulda's or woulda's.
Chin up little soldier..........smile and carry on!
2006-09-15 07:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the circumstances, you can mend your friendship if you talk it out with the person and come to an understanding. If this is an irrepairable situation, then you need to forgive and let go. The only reason you're still holding on is because you haven't really confronted the situation, and are still harboring feelings towards what happened and the person you've disassociated yourself with. You can either call them and talk things over just to get some resolution; write a letter (you don't have to send it) to get your feelings out; send an email; or do whatever other thing that you think will help you feel better. The main thing is, forgive that person so that you can truly get past whatever happened.
2006-09-15 14:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry - I know it seems like the biggest thing in your life - what you are going through now. But, believe it or not - most people go through this in their life time. I know it hurts. The only thing that mends a broken heart is "Time". Only time will heal. I can only suggest that you try to keep yourself busy. Try not to think about it all the time. Once you move on in your life, you'll be surprised that someone else will come along eventually & make you forget all about the old flame. It's hard to believe that now, but give it time. Go hang out with other friends, or join a gym or something. Seek out new horizons - or new partners. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 14:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your to young to over worry yourself of this, yes it hurts but time will heal it all. Take time to do things with other friends that have your same interest, might find a special friend in another group, which in fact will replace your lost. The more people around you, the more chances you have to recover from your lost, you can't make or get someone to love you, they do or they don't. Get active and be yourself and enjoy life, others will be attracted to your vibe and good things will develope for you soon. You might even find that your lost one might re-think her attitude, if she dumped you ounce, will she dump you again. Be wiser and move on, life is to good to waste !
2006-09-15 14:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by ricardo v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get over someone you really loved. You just have to go through the emotions. Losing someone dead or alive is a grieving process. You have to wait until your heart get over losing this person. You are going through being hurt and losing a friend. Just try to focus on something else, and the pain will ease with each new day. You can get over this.
2006-09-15 14:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that girl just stay focused on spoiling yourself .I am going threw the samething.Days of just thinking about her 24/7 makes you so tired and then right when im doing a little better she come back in the picture to put salt on the wound and i have to start all over again.I think if you loved her its going to take months.
2006-09-15 14:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by california kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different views of what friendship is.
For someone to be considered a good friend/best friend, there are going to be hurts. When I love someone I will still love them even if we have hurt each other.
If someone does not what to forgive me and decides they do not want to be my friend. I have to think was this person really a good friend?
If you two were truely best friends and they love you, maybe with time they will make up with you.
2006-09-15 14:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by purplejoyv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently fired a friend from my life because he was calling me abusive names for his own pleasure but I realized he wasn't a true friend to begin with when he did such thing and other sneaking things. So this happened twice the first time we didn't speak I missed his friendship soooo much that I contacted him couple of years later and now it gotten worse because he realized he must "all that" for me to call him back. So don't cave in and think about the cruel things your former friend did to you.
2006-09-15 14:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best not to chase something unabtainable the first couple of times for the rest of your life. Everything is expendable to the cruelty of fate, hold it while you can and keep the memories close.
-Mr. Thunk-it
2006-09-15 14:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Thunk-It 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough. I had a falling out with my best friend of 18 years. That was 2 years ago and we haven't spoken. Looking back on it, she wasn't a good friend to me. I miss a few things, but it gets better.
2006-09-15 14:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋