Recently, my wife and I joined a local gym off of a referral a kid I used to coach basketball for at my church 10 years ago. Well now this kid is all grown up and the women are definitely swooning all over him if you know what I mean....so when me and my wife went to the gym to get our memberships, I noticed that she became very animated when my friend was going over our package with us -- nervous-jittery movement....rubbing her fingures through her hair -- almost blushing it looked like...after the meeting was over I asked her if she thought he was an attractive guy our not....she said that he was definitely a good looking guy! -- so in my mind I immediately became jealous...I'm thinking I've never seen her be that excited over wanting to join the gym...it seemed like something was definitely going on that she may have not wanted to elaborate about, which made me even more jealous.....please tell me, am I over-reacting to this situation??
2006-09-15 07:00:52 · 10 answers · asked by slosco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are over reacting. It is a big thing joining a gym maybe your wife was trying to hide her stress of being there with all her movements and twitching. She was maybe having a little flirt but us girls do that only when it is safe fun! (i.e. nothing will ever happen) She does not mean anything by it at all. We also do get giggly and silly in front of good looking chaps as we are usually embarrassed because they look so good and know it!
2006-09-15 07:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As of right now with what u have said- its okay for you to feel a little jealous- most people would be. BUT I do think u r over reacting thinking something is going on with them! I dont think u have anything to worry about there! She just saw a great looking guy and was trying hard not to let you notice that she noticed so she was jittery and nervous thats all! Go home- hold her close and tell her how much u love her and need her! All is ok my friend!!!!
2006-09-15 07:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first there sounds like a trust issue involved; has she ever to your knowledge had an affair since you have been married? Second, guys do this all the time, when a beautiful woman starts flirting with them, they start acting different, puffing out the chest showing off, talking a good game. 99% of the time nothing ever goes any further than the flirting stage. The guy is younger, good looking and showing some attention to your wife (that's his job). She feels flattered, let her enjoy it, she is coming home with you. Use this situation as a wake-up call to show her more attention from you, give her flowers, call her for no reason just to say hi, take her out. Use this opportunity to make your relationship stronger instead of weaker. Good luck!
2006-09-15 07:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmn, no I don't think you're overreacting. Your reaction sounds natural to me. She told u the truth about what she thinks of him didn't she? When women act the way she did around that guy, it means she was very self conscious in front of him because she finds him attractive. It doesn't mean that she wants to be with him though. I do understand where your jealousy is coming from but as long as u are with her when she goes to the gym, I don't see what the problem is. Just keep both eyes on her.
2006-09-15 07:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do i blame you no, are you overreacting? yes, i am guilty of the same thing, i get that way when i ask my wife if a guy is attractive and she says yes, but think of it this way if that was some hot chick wouldn't if make you want to join the gym too. anyway i sympathize with you cuz i am the same exact way.
2006-09-15 07:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are overreacting. It is normal for most women to get jittery or nervous around seriously good looking men. She admitted to you that she thought he was good looking- that's a good thing. Dont' ruin the fact that she feels comfortable/close enough to you to give you her honest opinion.
2006-09-15 07:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a VERY happily married woman. Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. Thinking and doing are 2 differant things. She comes home to you everynight don't she??
2006-09-15 07:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by danabriggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you are overreacting. I am sure she was just flirting...all girls do it..when a young attractive guy is talking to you. No worries....try not to be jealous...I am sure that you would do the same thing if the roles were reversed!
2006-09-15 07:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Hydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing some women need to be told they they still got it and maybe that was her way of seeing it. That's a wake up call for you to pay her some more attention and offer positive affirmations!
2006-09-15 07:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are over reacting but also sounds like she is exited so be very carefull and watch her
2006-09-15 07:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋