My Boss is a PERVERT what do I do?

Question

Okay so Im a receptionist and we just got a new GM general manager here, and when I tell him he has a call or a message he stares at my chest!! It makes me want to barf!! Hes really good friends with the people at our corporate office so I dont know what to do, I dont even dress all that revealing!! HE makes me sick what do I do??!?!!

Answer 1

document everything and tell at least 3 people.

Set up an appointment to speak with a supervisor/manager /HR person about the issue. Take notes in the meeting.

Happened at my company a while ago, man was making excuses to speak to the ladies in my department, even though he had no reason to. He would stand behind women and stare down there blouses. He tried to come on to another women's 13 year old daughter and brought in a sex toy catalog and tried to "poll" what toys us women liked.

After 3 years of nothing happening, I started documenting everything and we all went to the regional manager with our paperwork. He was fired b/c they feared a law suit, since we had several conversations with our immediate supervisor and she was too scared to confront the man and did nothing.

documentation and evidence is key.

Answer 2

Stand your ground, but do not go on the offensive.

Everyone else pretty much hit the nail on the head, though you should always be cautious of advice doled out by lawsuit hawks. The guy's acting like a perv, so do your documentation but make sure at least one of the individuals you communicate the problem to has relevant connections within the organization and can effectively and professionally relay the issue to a person who matters.

The higher-ups would likely be extremely upset to know what he's doing and quick to reprimand him. On the same token, recognize that while you are at the center of the negative activity, the company is probably more concerned with public and legal consequences than it is with your well-being in particular. (I don't know the situation - just food for thought.) In this light, don't make this about *you* in your approach with the company.

You don't want your response to alienate your own allies by forcing those within the organization into a premature defensive posture. In a he said/she said situation, the person of higher rank and reputation is the one that the organization will almost certainly support initially. You can still come out in the right in a more contentious scenario, but that route involves much more friction and stress and will make your life harder in the end.

Obviously it's a not a situation anyone should have to deal with, and it's too bad that you've even been put into this position.

Answer 3

Well I'm pretty sure he knows what he's doing is wrong. I would make mention of this to another manager to see if there is something that they can do. Make sure that other people are aware of the problem visually and that you can trust them to keep it confidential. EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) works for free and if you google them you can get many legal answers and advice on how tomake a complaint to someone on the outside that you are being sexually harrassed. They may even be able to help you find a low cost attorney who can help you also. Getting a free consultation is also another way to get it done.

Answer 4

If it gets really bad report him. I had a boss do that like 10 years ago and I STILL regret not turning him in. I was super young at the time, and he embarrassed the hell out of me constantly.
The next time he stares at your chest, you look down at your chest and then ask him if there's something on you shirt. Make him aware that you are aware.
pig.

Answer 5

hmm.
leave the job or ignore him
but u can always vent ur feelings out, and plz do strictly convey him dat his straying at ur body will not be tolerated by u. tell sternly u mend his behavior.
ur an independent women u should not allow or give ne freedom, for if u dont speak up now ur boss may get bolder n dat would be situation dat u do not wanna face,.

So keep it simple n straight
.U protect ureself .

Answer 6

well take him to the side and talk to him you shouldn't compromise your happiness and be gentle. when you finish telling him act normally and don't make a big deal out of talking to him and you and him could be friends in the end you never know. if it persists tell him again and if he persist again tell the main office and sue or something. i have big breast and knows how it feel for people to stare, tell them. but you need evidence so keep a dairy

Answer 7

I would hope your company has an HR office you can go to to report sexual harrassment. If not, I'd definitely think about finding another job. No job is worth putting up with that sort of demeaning behavior.

Answer 8

ask him to stop. if he doesnt stop ask him again. and if he still doesnt stop you need to report him to someone higher up, someone you feel you can trust. if all that doesnt work, you can file a complaint of sexual harrassment. i believe you would need to contact a lawyer if it goes that far, but make sure someone else in your office knows whats going on so you will have witnesses if you need them.

Answer 9

first of all, ALL men are perverts, its just that some men are more discrete than others when they check women out. but you should know that all men will check out attractive young women. its basic biology. that doesn't mean he has the right to harass you. if he makes inappropriate comments or gestures, you have a right to complain. but if he's just looking, you gotta ignore it if you want to survive in the corporate world.

Answer 10

Contact your Human Resources department.

Tell him your eyes are in your head and that you would appreciate the courtesy of him looking at them instead of your breasts.