...I hate the idea that he finds other women sexy and Im not the only one. He dosent make hurtful comments or stare in front of me and I realize it would be unreasonable to expect to be his only object of desire but is it really too much to want to be special?
2006-09-15 06:49:33 · 47 answers · asked by Sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry your husband hasn't grown up yet.
now it's on you. you have to tell him what you are feeling and he needs to get it.
I told my wife I'm going to look until the day I'm dead. I know better than to make it too obvious and I know not to comment unless I can say something about her like. your butt looks so much better than hers.
you are the one he loves and comes home to every day but he needs to let you know you are the only one.
2006-09-15 06:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All women would like to be the only one their man desires... And probably does, but the reality is that men will always look at other women... It's what they do, but it doesn't mean that he wants to be with them...
I'm sure he thinks you are special, because he married you.... Don't worry so much, unless he's given you reason to...
Make sure that you always keep him interested, by making his special dinner from time to time. Having sexy lingerie on, when he comes home... Leaving him little notes, saying that you love him and miss him... Marriage is a job and you have to keep that person interested, so that they don't go elsewhere... The same goes for women, men have to keep them interested as well..
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-09-15 06:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No there's nothing wrong with wishing he only had eyes for you and you were the most beautiful thing in the world to him. Chances are that's probably pretty close to what he thinks anyway, if he is a good guy. However, you have to give him some credit. Guys are visual beings so they will think other women are attractive. In a perfect world every other woman would be repulsive to him.. Dont' you see other men and think they're attractive? I mean, Brad Pitt is pretty hot. Just don't worry about it.
2006-09-15 06:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious if the women you are concerned with are at his work enviroment? It can be a lot of fun to work with the opposite sex. I find I was more fufilled and happy with myself. Just think he can bring it all home to you. I found it to be perfectly harmless. Maybe you can get involved in some college classes, if you don't work. You will meet people and it will take your mind off your worries. You will find that your husband will find you more sexy and attractive. Try to let him know how special he is in your eyes.
Surprise him, wear something sexy tonight. Make him want to come home. Peace out!!!!!!
2006-09-15 07:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are special, he married you didn't he? Why is supposed to stop acknowledging other attractive people? That's just silly. If you plant roses in your yard and love them, does that mean you can no longer acknowledge that any other flower is lovely? You have to close your eyes when you pass any other rose bush?
Are you saying you don't find any other men attractive or sexy? If you don't, that's rather odd. Appreciating visually lovely things needn't stop when we acquire one for our selves...it doesn't mean we want that other thing (or person) or that we don't care about the one we have...but it's silly to think we'll never look at another one and find it appealing simply because we have one...
You need to figure out where your insecurity stems from and work on it...I'd think it more odd if your husband found no other woman in the world (of several billion) appealing other than you...but he's not with any of them...is he?
2006-09-15 06:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are very special to him. He does not make hurtful comments or stare because he loves you, you trust him not to cheat, so I'd say that is pretty special. It is human nature to find members of the opposite sex sexy, it is very normal. It is special to have trust and a husband that avoids things that hurt you.
2006-09-15 06:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already ARE special! You landed him right? He comes home to you every night!
My mom always told me that if your man isn't looking at other women, there is something wrong.
So instead of getting upset, you look at her too, see what makes her so beautiful or sexy. I know this sounds crazy but once you can do that, it means your comfortable with yourself and him and in the knowledge that each of u is faithful to the other.
I've been married 16 years so this is the keyboard of reason
lol
Seriously honey, it'll be ok.
2006-09-15 06:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you find other men. Being married does not make one blind. Just think, out of all the "sexy" women out there (real or fake;-), he chose YOU.
Doesn't that count for something that makes you special? I'm not trying to poke fun, you just need to put this into perspective. Jealousy is unattractive on anyone. Try to find ways to feel more confident about yourself.
2006-09-15 06:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by T S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 00:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too much to want.
My fiancee chooses not to look at other women on the streets (he only views women on TV which is fine with me). He chooses not to look at the ones he sees when he's outside because he knows he has a beautiful and caring fiancee that provides and cares for him better than any of them other women could possibly do and because he is given effection from me on a daily basis and our sex life is great. You guys may not agree with this but he's actually sworn (and he never swears unless it's the truth) to this, which is why I love him EVEN more.
If a man loves you he shouldn't bother looking at any other women PERIOD. He has you.
2006-09-15 07:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be the only object of his desires!!!
My husband can look at other women but if he was to start making comparisions or comments then that would be crossing the line.
Give him a taste of his own medicine, I bet he'll lose it if you start checking out guys and commenting on them.
2006-09-15 06:52:49 · answer #11 · answered by Lanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋