Sometimes I feel like throwing a glass or stabbing my husband with my fork at dinner. I worry i might hurt my dogs even though I love them dearly. I know these are things I don't want to do but what the hell are these impulses about!? Does anyone else get them?
2006-09-15 06:46:08 · 15 answers · asked by Kim L 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you answer yes, then say not people or animals, please explain! Remember Ally McBeal and all the fantasies she had about when people made her angry? It's like that. I don't want to hurt anyone, let me make it clear, it's an impulse.
2006-09-15 06:53:04 · update #1
Yes, only when I'm really angry or depressed. I have to remind myself of the consequences of my actions in order to stop myself. Thankfully I don't get into bad moods very often - but when I do - I know deep down that violence isn't going to make me feel better in the long run.
2006-09-15 07:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. At times I've visualised killing those that have given me grief over the years - it's most satisfying. But of course if you ever act it out then jail being the consequence - it's just not worth it.
I'm saying this tongue in cheek. Having thoughts of aggression may be showing that you are not satisfied in some way in your life. Not trying to psycho-analyse you. Astrologically you could say your Mars is saying hello. I am quite an aggressive person and have learned to deal with my anger as best I can. Being physically active helps and doing something that satisfies my mind helps too.
But taking a baseball bat to an old TV or throwing old dinner plates onto the concrete paving feels really really good. It's okay to be 'bad' sometimes!
2006-09-15 08:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mercury 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, everyone has these impulses but few ever fulfill them, which is good.
I know what you feel. When you don't express your emotions in a way then you can let yourself go, then the stress will just grow and one day you will hurt someone.
Try going to a concealer, or wright a diary, or spend some time with a friend.
2006-09-15 08:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When someone does something that makes you angry, thinking about hurting them is completely normal. Everyone gets impulses to hurt back when they've been hurt. Its only if you dwell on these thoughts all the time, or have them when nothing has happened to make you angry that its abnormal.
2006-09-15 08:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cansas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the best way to approach your question is to accept that the behaviors you describe arise from Anger. Acts of violence always stem from feelings of Anger whether you are aware of them or not. Hurting another, invariably causes you to face penalties that society imposes on an aggressor. The best way to deal with the feelings that you describe is to find a trained professional. This person can evaluate you for psychotherapy and medication if needed, before you act out on the feelings that you describe.
2006-09-15 07:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tony P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES! i heard somewhere to throw an egg! just grab one out of the fridge, go into the backyard and LET IT FLY!! this lets out your frustration while not causing any harm (unless you hit someone or somthing with the egg -which is NOT recommended!) i've done it before when i wanted to beat the crap out of my sister and it really helped me! i hope it might help you too... i've also gone into my room, lay face down on the bed and scream as loud as i can into a pillow. sounds silly, but it helps too!! good luck! last resort: therapy.
2006-09-15 06:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by bunniek420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 00:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally no I do not get them but you should go see a specialist or something (not to insult you) but you do not want to hurt the poor dogs. Also if your husband is causing these impulses talk to him about what he is doing...
2006-09-15 06:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but never animals or husbands. Sometimes visualizing it then letting it go works. Or kick the **** out of a punching back after visualizing.
It is one of the reasons I started taking karate and sparring. Legitimate a-s-s kickin
GREAT QUESTION
2006-09-15 06:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course! Especially when I am calling someone and I can't get through. I just want to slam my phone on the wall and break it into pieces. It's because I can't control my anger.
2006-09-15 07:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Harry thePotter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋