how do i deal with my friend?

Question

When my friend and I are having a conversation, she expects me to give her my full attention, and when i start saying stuff she zones out. Like yesterday we went to lunch and she was on hte phone for 75% of the time during lunch. I was so pissed that I almost stood up and just left. How do i deal with her?

Answer 1

If You figure it out, let Me know. I have a Friend that when We go on vacation, which is very rare, She thinks She has to get back home or everyone will fall apart, like after 2 to 3 days. Her Children are grown. She calls them all of the time, it is very annoying. Last time I told Her to take Her own car, that I was tired of cutting My vacation short. She promised over, and over that it would not happen this time. But it did, I started to leave, but then just said NO.

Next time just tell Her that She seems to be too busy right now to enjoy the lunch You had planned together. Leave the money for Your meal, and say Let's try it another time.

My Mother-In-Law, when I am talking to Her on the phone, always gets call waiting, like whoever it is has to be more important than Me. But if I did it to Her She would be offended. Hey maybe I just answered My own question. Sometimes People have to see what we are going through to see how it makes us feel.

Sorry that happened to You. Best Wishes with resolving it.

Answer 2

Keep yourself occupied as well and zone her out while she is talking to you. The more you keep doing that, the more she'll realize that you don't care what she says anymore. Once she realizes that, tell her that she does the same thing to you as well and you don't appreciate that. Friends listen to what that person has to say and give you their undivided attention. She doesn't sound like a good friend to me because she tunes you out everytime you talk to her and she gets mad when you do the same thing to her. This is entirely up to you. Do what you think feels best for you.

Answer 3

maybe she wants something form you,not in a form of attention maybe something more, as a friend, maybe she is stressed in quite a few ways and she does not know how to release it,maybe she feels better by just you being wtih here she feels that she is needed. some people feel so, but of course they dont realise they are making the people close to them annoyed or angry, talking wont do the trick, just let her do so and ignore her, one day she will feel ignored and she will ask you why, then tell her how you felt and ask her questions why she loves doing so, maybe she has a problem, in this way you wont hurt her, and who know maybe time willl do the trick and heal both of you,

Answer 4

Time for you to find other things to keep you occupied. Bring a good book and do the same to her!

I know it sounds immature but sometimes u just have to fight fire with fire.

You could also just ditch her completely. Find someone else to hang out with, she certainly doesn't seem to be a true friend.

Answer 5

Be up front and tell her exactly how you feel. Impress upon her that it is demeaning and disrespectful and you would appreciate if she give you the same respect you give her. If she appreciate your friendship she will understand and step up to the plate. If not you have to let her that you will no longer accept her trite behavior.

Answer 6

Be patient, but try to start pulling away. You don't need her to fill your time. Make new friends. :)

Answer 7

talk to her tell her that you need to talk to her and that u feel that she is not there for u when u need her and is there a problem?maybe u need to talk to another friend when u need to talk

Answer 8

Just tell her what you typed