I've read all the answers here but I don't know if I really have an answer. I'm in love with my girlfriend, but she isn't sure what love is. She tells me she cares deeply for me, and when I let her go to follow her heart she came back to me. I thought that the old adage: "If you love something let it go. If it doesn't come back it was never meant to be, if it does come back love it forever." said it all, it seems meant to be. Can anyone define Love? Is love self defining or can it never truly be defined? I believe I know what Love is, but my definition is lacking and I could use some help here to help her understand what Love is.
2006-09-15 06:36:43 · 14 answers · asked by zaphodmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The answers to my question seem to assume that I and my girfriend are young. This is not the case, we are both 37. I think that might be relevent to your answers.
2006-09-15 06:46:24 · update #1
Love can come in many ways, shapes, and forms..by the book, the real definition of love is: A strong, positive emotion of regard and affection for another person, but I believe Love is not a label, its a feeling. Sad but true, it is way over rated and thought about too deeply. Most people spend their whole lives trying to define their feeling of love to another person, and trying to answer questions like "WHY" they love them and "WHAT" they love about them, when its not like that all. The best way to explain love, is not to explain. When my husband asks me , Why I love him? Of course I could say, because you are good to me, I think you are handsome, and I enjoy being around you, but those kind of answers to such a strong question cannot be the reason why I Love him. So I say to him, I don't know why, all I know is... I just do. Its a feeling you just know is there, Not knowing why, you want to breath for that person, laugh when they laugh, cry when they cry, and die when they die is a feeling that cannot be defined and shouldn't be. You will know when you love a person just by your heart and soul telling you, and when you finally have it and you finally feel it, you will know it, so keep and leave it as that, just the way it should be.
2006-09-15 07:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love. Others call it a recently invented abstraction, sometimes dating the "invention" to courtly Europe during or after the middle ages (though this is contradicted by the sizable body of ancient love poetry). Others maintain that love really exists, is not an abstraction, but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. Some psychologists maintain that love is the action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another. And others attempt to define love and apply the definition to everyday life.
2006-09-16 05:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u already know what love is! Cuz love totally drives u crazy half the time and you sound like your about there! No offense! Love is confusing and heart wretching and you sound absolutely in love and terrified of losing this girl! The only thin u can do is give her space and let her breathe and hopefully she will realize that love and you go hand in hand! To me- love is not being able to breathe until you r with your love once again. Love is having goosebumps from head to toe when they touch you. Love is having electrical sparks shoot thru your body when u r kissed by them! Love is having your heart skip a beat as they walk into a room and smile at only you! Love is when you put their needs-desires- and wants above all others including your own. Love is the most wonderful yet terrifying thing on earth and its soooo worth it once u have it! Good luck darlin!
2006-09-15 06:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something you can't really define because it is different for everyone. It sounds like you guys are both young and still learning about who you are and what you want. Keep caring for each other and spending time together and don't take it all so seriously. The rest will all fall into place when the time is right.
2006-09-15 06:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is a feeling that you develop towards the one whose thoughts make you blush while you are alone,with whom you wanna be with all the time,for whom your heart cares the most and feels the pain!!
love is a very natural process,she has to feel from within,definations wont help!!
2006-09-15 06:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Corinthians 13 defines Love this way. It's the best way I've ever found to define true love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2006-09-15 06:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is a chemical reaction in the brain caused by the firing of a certain chain of neurons and syntax clusters. it is produced in the hypothalamus, and lasts, at most, 18 months.
it is a device of survival for a species. it is an evolutionary change that humans have developed to overcome physical defects.
sorry to burt your bubble.
2006-09-15 06:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Baby don't hurt me..no more!)
My opinion would be, if you feel love for somebody, then it would feel like something was missing if that person were no longer in your life. If you love your girlfriend, then your life wouldn't be the same if she were no longer in it.
2006-09-15 06:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-09-15 16:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a comfort level in a romanti relation wen u dnt get embarraced or nething......its awesome but can br very hurting so be aware!!
2006-09-15 06:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Aparna B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋