I have two good friends. I have been friends with them for almost two years now. However, lately I have been getting annoyed at them because I call them the majority of the time. I call them to say hi, see how they are doing. And see if they want to hang out sometime soon. They rarely call me to see how I'm doing to see if I want to hang out. So, I have become really annoyed at them and stopped calling them. Just to see if they will get the message. However, I think one of my friends thinks I'm mad at her because I have not been calling. And, I think the other one does not care. I just grew tired and annoyed of alwayshaving to call them up. The phone works both ways. But, do I have a right to feel annoyed? Should I let this feeling go and just call them as I always do?
2006-09-15 05:56:49 · 11 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's alright to feel annoyed. It sucks when you put in more than you get out of any relationship. Instead of teaching them a lesson by acting the way they do, why not just tell them about it? If their friends, they will listen and try to understand. Let them know that you sometimes feel like your friendship is one sided, and that if you didn't keep the lines of communication open, your friendship wouldn't last.
2006-09-15 06:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you, you have every right to be annoyed and you are right that the phone works both ways, but maybe you should tell your friends that they should call you as well, and that its a two way street. The main question you should ask yourself is, would they be there for you if you were in need or in pain, and if the answer is yes, then who cares who calls who and when? good luck
2006-09-15 06:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you grew up and they did not. The one that is worried you are mad, may just not be the idea girl and may be just unassertive. The other one seems more into her than you.
I think you can communicate that friendships are a two-person deal. You have the right to be treated decent. If she can't do that, then evidently it is about what you can do for her, rather than an equal relationship. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. You are so right. Why would you doubt that? You sound very bright and articulate.
2006-09-15 06:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same experience in the past. Unfortunately we are no longer keeping in touch. If your like me you get tired of always having to be the one to get in touch with the other. You would think if they liked you as much as you like them they would initiate a call or plans once in awhile. I think you are doing the right thing, just be patient a good friend will come around!
2006-09-15 06:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Moma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, take it easy. They are just being childish. They got used to you calling them... you spoiled them! :))
Now, try to get it right, tell them openly that you wouldn't mind if they called once in a while themselves without you having to be the spark on the engine..... you cannot expect them to get your silent messages - not everyone has the fine antenna for that, you know! See what happened, now they think you are upset - no result. You have to tell them exactly what is bothering you and maybe they will change.
Hard to deal with immature friends, I know. Good luck!
2006-09-15 06:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i understand how u feel, but perhaps they dont realise ur importance to them yet, or maybe u havent reached the level of closeness that u desire. hang in there, and still continue to meet ppl, as u never know, u light meet some new friends who will understand u more, and vice versa
2006-09-15 06:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i like the lady, then no. i are not getting aggravated. whether it relatively is unquestionably one of my acquaintances-who's-a-lady, then nevertheless no. I, in my view, attempt to no longer textual content textile first, seeming desperate. My buddy however, he continually texts first. If he's bored, he will merely textual content textile 'hey' and be completed with it.
2016-09-30 23:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by kinjorski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. Explain to them how you feel and that you feel as though they dont care. Otherwise... what is really that bad about it if they dont call you first?
2006-09-15 06:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAH not really. That is gonna be one way to find out who is really your true friend.
2006-09-15 05:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have the ryts....besides u already built a foundation for them, and u have the relationship u can kip....dotn feel sorry about it..u have the ryts anyway...
2006-09-15 06:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by jO-An 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋