I was in a love relationship with a married guy for 2 yrs. Now He is of the view that nothing can happen for our future and we can not marry.Now the problem is that he is living ok with his wife but doesnt want to leave me either. And I know my feelings for him will never change and seeing them together is and will be a great pain
for me.But He doesnt want to stop talking and meeting me.I know it will be difficult for me too but i have to take this tough step. Plz suggest what to do?Should i accept whatever he says (not to stop meeting and talking to him) or just leave him and live my life.If your answer is to leave him then plz suggest how to do that? I am out of mind now and just can not think anything.
2006-09-15 05:30:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men for the most part never leave their wives for a misstress.. You need to get out of this one way or another..It is even worse now that he telling you there is no chance
2006-09-15 05:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by dwh12345 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course we are going to suggest to leave him. How could you sell yourself short by settling as second best. She gets the home, the every night having someone to sleep next too and the ultimate she carries is last name. You also deserve all those things and that's not being selfish that's being a human being wanting a normal ideal life. What he is doing is wrong to the both of yous and the fact that you knew he is married makes you just as wrong. So I really don't know wither to feel bad for you or be mad at you.
You want to know how to do it it's the same with every relationship : stop answering is calls stop all communications period. Tell him it isn't fare what he is asking of you and for that reason you must look for your own life to live. If he cant except it well it really doesn't matter wither he likes it or not but either way tell him that you will confront is wife.
NEXT TIME FIND YOUR OWN MAN SO YOU WON'T HAVE TO ASK US FOR HELP AGAIN.
God don't like ugly - what gose around comes around ten times harder think befor you make decissions that might change the rest of life.~~~~~~~~Karma's a Bit*h ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
2006-09-15 06:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by a_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that after he leaves his wife and marries you, he won't do the same thing he is doing to his current wife? You need to dump this guy and find a guy that will respect you and love you, Oh! make sure he's single!
The person that mentioned sending a note to his wife then leaving him has good ideas. He is cheating her and you in this situation and both of you women deserve better than that!! Tell him flat out that you will not see him anymore and if he keeps bothering you, you will call his wife. You will be the bad guy too, but maybe he will get a swift kick with reality!!
Good luck!!
2006-09-15 05:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously know you gotta go. Now how? Well, for starters, got any old friends to go do something with? Feel like taking a class, learning a new skill, trying yoga, etc.? Get very busy so that you leave little time to feel sorry for yourself. Surround yourself with fun, interesting people, places, and things. Know that you are doing what is truly good for you for once and don't ever settle for second again. That's just a start. I bet there a many websites dealing with how to survive a break up. I would check some out. Once you put him away, you will have to end the relationship, period, zip, nada. Don't go where he goes, don't hang where he hangs, don't call, don't give in even when you are lonely, and take this time to get to know you and go after your own dreams. Best of luck to you. Hugs.
2006-09-15 05:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is really forget about this man who is not really ever going to give you a good life and love you totally, after all he cheated on his wife, ring any bells there. It will be difficult to move on but believe me it can be done. I was cheated on by my fiance and i thought it was the end of the world but in time it passed and got married to a wonderful man have two lovely children and am totally happy. i now think what i saw in the other creep. Please relay make an effort change jobs move house do whatever necessary but please try really hard and forgot this good for nothing man.good luck you can do it if you really try.
2006-09-15 05:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by cool chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using both of you. You might want to break it off with him. Let him know that as a woman you want to respect his wife. Did you know that in the USA about 75% of murders are not commited by crazy pyhco killers but the domestice disputes between husban and wife or wife to his lover. Think about that. Live your life. The burtally honest fact is that if he is cheating on his wife and they get a divorces and he marries you. He will cheat on you to, no matter what he says!
2006-09-15 05:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same shoes. I suggest u leave him because we can never be happy for the rest of our life with a married man. How to leave him? Just change your place atleast for a while..Entertain suitors..Does his wife knows about u? If not yet, r u ready for scandal and threat she might give to u in return. My life was threatened because of having an affair like that,those were sleepless nights..Think about it.Think about bad karma too.We deserve to be happy and love by a single man..
2006-09-15 09:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i dated a guy that was married for 3 yrs he told me everthing i wanted to hear he loved me he was leaveing his wife but when the time came he never left her . what he is doing to you is telling you everything you want to here .so if i was you i go forward and move on life is to short he will never leave her be smart i bet your pretty there single guy out there do not date a married man hope this helps
2006-09-15 05:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by l_torrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look he is just using you because you are a girl. if you want some physical heat then it is ok to meet him otherwise i think you must leave him. tomorrow he will find some more beautiful girl than you and he will leave you after having sex. if he is ready and brave enough to meet and talk to you openly then it is ok. it is like he is cheating his wife and if he can cheat someone else then he can cheat you also. don't be fool. i am a boy and i know what guys think in such relationships . i am 19 years old. you may contactme.
2006-09-15 05:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by hari_sadu_h_for 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and move to a new town, or state. The more distance you put between him and you, the better. I understand how you feel, but if he refuses to leave his wife then you should leave him.
Be strong for yourself, do what's right for your emotional well being. Change your phone numbers too.
2006-09-15 05:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by tangie1247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋