Hubby had a one nighter a few months ago. He brought a "present" home and passed to me.(fixed with antibiotics). Even after he was found out he still tried to lie about it. He hides things from me, used to spend money like crazy, and had a pot habit. I have tried talking to him about it, finally he realizes he has lost everything. What is his problem?
2006-09-15 05:24:57 · 28 answers · asked by Marie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
some guys are like that. they think that no matter what, they can convince you to their story. the thing is, you will probably never get a straight answer. if you are fine with how he is, then change nothing. but if you want to stay and fix it, try counceling or something. it just seems like its his way or no way, and you have to suffer through it. being cheated on shows that he has no respect for you. everyone deservs some sort of respect.
2006-09-15 05:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by bdaddy20012000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the truth is he is a dog, he broke your trust in him, one thing to remember if he has cheated once he will do it again, what if the next time he brings something home that isnt curiable.
I think if i were you i would leave now so that your not hurt any more, he is lying because he thinks he got by with it. and can promise you that he will do it again and again.stop lying to your self, or just live with it and hope and pray he dont bring anything else home to you. even if you caught him he would still lie about it
because i his way of thinking he did nothing wrong. he gets away with it and i think he is stupid for not using protect plus he is stupid for messing around when he as something at home.
There are other men out there that would love to have a loyal and trusting wife or g/f still a lot of good men out there that are dogs.
2006-09-15 12:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by barbara g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in denial as most people are when it comes to a drug or alcohol habit and addiction.
They often try to get people to believe its someone else's problem, that they are forced to do this. They lie because they know their behaviour isnt acceptable and that its a danger to them and others.
Until he hits rock bottom, he wont change and more often than not they dont change.
I had to hit the bottom of the barrel before I even thought about stopping the drugs, it got to where when I did get high I had to keep doing more and more and still I couldnt evade my problems.
Your best bet is to try to get him into a Detox Program, if he wont go, explain to him that his actions and rug use is causing problems for you and the family and in order not to be drug down by him, or get into trouble with the law, because of the drug you can either ask him to leave until he cleans up or leave yourself.
The Choice is his.
2006-09-15 12:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no hon ,I just went well going thru the same thing I thought my husband was just on pot .but no alot of money missing he was on cocaine really bad ,we have lost everything I have been dealing with this a year but he was lieing and using way longer he was poisioned and almost died ,he was in critical care a week,even this being took to hostipal many times he still continued to lie and use ,just 2 weeks ago he relasped after being clean 2 months wrecked company truck and lost his job .so Im in a mess ,dont really know how I feel about him anymore I want to run away but I have been with him 13 years and been thru so much dont know if I can hold on much longer ,he is finally in rehab ,but that makes me mad to, because I tried to get him in rehab for us and he would not go but his boss told him if he done rehab he may get his job back !! so he is not working and is in classes ,I dont deserve this kind of life and it gets really hard to stay .couple tell ,tell signs are weight loss ,lack of sleep ,sinus trouble ,I thought my husband had a bad sinus infection that just would not go away ,lol was I wrong ,and also they are very hiper ,then become very sad after using .I pray for you .ask Him if it is cocaine because my husband was also a pot user but he had no trouble stopping pot .and lies ,money ,loss you name it I have been there .good luck once again ,ask him and tell you!!!you will have him tested for cocaine .
2006-09-15 12:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have only found out about this instance because of the "present," so there is no telling how many times this has happened before or even since then. What's wrong with him is that he is selfish and immature. Lose him. You'll be better off in no time.
2006-09-15 12:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More importantly, hunnie, why are you still with him? I understand everyone goes through stuff but cheating, lying, drugs, and diseases? Where do you draw your line? The bigger issue is his lack of respect for you and the sanctity of your marraige. I hate to say it, but I think you deserve better. He has gotten away with all the above and will continue to do it because he feels he can.
2006-09-15 12:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to say Good Bye to him. Before he gets worst. Because men do not change for anybody. And be glad you can take a pill to get rid of what he gave you. Next time might not be so lucky.
2006-09-15 12:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by claire b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of the situation, 2 sides to every story but it sounds like he needs to grow up a bit and be more responsible.
2006-09-15 12:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Naughtiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in here why? If my husband was cheating he would soon be refered to as my ex husband. The pot makes no difference really but the cheating you should have been long gone
2006-09-15 12:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His problem is you.
Don't get me wrong you are a woman who stood by her man
but in my book if he still lies after you caught him out you should of booted him out straight away.
You need to move on and get with someone who will treat you as you deserve and that is a princess.Good luck xx
2006-09-15 13:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋