Personally, I would never have a baby out of wedlock, but I am tradtional like that as is my wife.
However, all my friends that have children had them out of wedlock and some of them married once their child was a toddler.
I have a friend who felt obligated to stay with the girl he got pregnant even though he didn't love her. That's a situation I never wanted to be in and luckily I never will be in.
Why is having babies out of wedlock acceptable now?
It seems like no one is married before getting pregnant anymore.
What do you think about it?
2006-09-15 04:48:08 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell I dont think its okay to have babies out of wedlock a baby needs two loving caring parents that are married.
2006-09-15 04:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's good. I think accidents happen, and that's one thing. I think doing nothing to prevent it, and then acting surprised is insane. I think that it's pure lunacy how girls want to have babies in high school. I think it's all so bad, and it's rampant on this site. Lots of marriages end because people married out of obligation. I think that's worse than getting pregnant out of wedlock. Do people still give a thought to the baby? I mean, once it's a child? I'm afraid it's here to stay, like so much other stuff I don't like. I try to teach my children this simple thing about 'get your education, get a job, get a place, have a ball--eventually, you'll fall in love, get married and have babies.' Single unwed mothers I know are offended by that, as if I'm on moral high ground, but none of them planned their children in any way. I say to them, "do you want your daughter to be a mommy at 20?" NO ONE says yes. Unwed mothers and fathers are not bad people, but man that's a rough way to learn from a mistake!
2006-09-15 08:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that having a child out of wedlock is acceptable per-say but I think that society has a lot more serious issues to worry about at this given time. I personally would draw the assumption that teen pregnancy is the main cause of children being born out of wedlock not adults. I think the main cause of this epidemic growing so drastically is due to sex being publicized as an "in thing" rather than an act that is to be partaken in by "married couples". With sexual activity being on the rise among our younger generations there is less talk about abstinence and birth control. Note that recently some states and I am not sure if all of them are involved, but a law was passed to offer the "day after pill" over the counter. And once more, trying to get females aged 11 and above that has not yet been introduced to sex to take a vaccination to protect against cervical cancer as a result of a sexually transmitted human papilloma virus. Although both products can help lessen the burden of unwanted pregnancies and cancer, it is also promoting sex and not abstinence to our younger generations. This will only open more avenues for sexual promiscuity rather than en-stilling the concept that sex should not be performed until after marriage. Marriage in itself has lost its sanctity. No one values marriage anymore and as a result we as a nation have to deal with the consequences of children being born out of wedlock, sexually transmitted diseases, teen pregnancy, promiscuity and instability in relationships. All of these things go hand in hand and none of these issues will change until parents start raising their children with a sense of morality and society stops making excuses and ways to escape commitment. But we must realize that these are the types of things that will happen when we allow our government to make familiar decisions rather than let parents raise their children.
2006-09-15 05:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well things, time and people change... I dont think everyone was made to get married, some people dont wanna get married any at all but want a child or children for that matter.
Its all in the person's interest and what that individual wants.
Sometimes mistakes happen..so a child is born out of wedlock..besides its not like the child wont amount to anything..it can work just as good in a marriage as well as out of it..Its left to the person and the decisions they wanna make..
2006-09-15 05:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by leisee 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. I am 24 and vowed to get married before having any children. There are so many people in this world that don't know what morals are anymore. They seem to think that having a baby is no big deal. That showing the child what they need in a close knit family is no longer. I just cannot believe the amount of people that are bearing children without a single thought that the child might have a tough time. I remember asking my parents if they were married before they had me. They said yes. It came as a comfort to me to know that my parents were financially and emotionally ok to raise me. I think I did just fine.
I just hope the rest of the people can learn morals. Such as being married first. Understandably things happen, but some people dont care anymore, and I think thats sad.
Very good question!
2006-09-15 05:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Having babies and marriage are two totally separate issues. The human race evolved on having babies out of wedlock for 100,000 years . It has only been the last couple of thousand years that marriage and breeding have been tied together.People who plan pregnancy and a family will most likely get married first . The unplanned pregnancies that lead to marriage are simply a sign of careless irresponsible behavior being trouble shot after the fact.
2006-09-15 05:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really dont understand the question and its reference.
You say it's acceptable. I ask what societydo you live in? Oh and for that matter what planet. Yeah sorry if people cant be tired and executed for committing such a horrible act of conceiving a child without a piece of paper promising such a devotion of love. But that dosent mean it's accepted. You still have the ever persecuting eye of society frowing upon such sins. It's not that people have accepting it anymore than they did yesterday. It's just that people have learned to be more hypocritical about it. smile to your face and frown behind your back. A child is the creation of life. What the hell difference does it make if someone is or isnt married. what matters is if this world is willing to accept everyone no matter their flaws. THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE. DO WE REMEMBER THOSE WORDS? BUT THEN AGAIN WHY SHOULD WE SINCE WE FORGOT WHY WE ARE HERE
2006-09-15 04:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I consider it a sort of "outrage fatigue" -- something that used to be so scandalous in days gone by has now become so commonplace, we as a society throw up our collective hands and say, "We give up! It's OK now!"
Now, you may argue that, in the old days, having two-parent families was much more critical, since it took much more effort to provide for those children; and that with the wealth and comfort of our current way of living, it's not so hard (and therefor, not so necessary) for a child to have two parents. But I also think that society as a whole as been dismissive of the role men play in raising children (particularly, the benefits of having a father as role model and authority figure, especially for young men); and those chickens that are STILL coming home to roost as we see more and more young people from single parent families shirking their duties to the children they produce and getting themselves into trouble....
2006-09-15 04:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to do with morals slipping because of the rejection of organized religion. Also, our society puts sex on TV 24/7 with shows and even in commercials like the entire world revolves around you doing it or not. Our children growing up are bombarded with it and when they become teenagers, sex is the in thing to do so they do it and don't worry about the consequences. I bet if you did a survey, people of faith who raise their children in that type of environment have less unwanted pregnancies than people who never attend church and live an anything goes lifestyle. You know, before the ACLU started trying to kick God out of our lives, things were not this bad.
2006-09-15 04:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's ok to have babies and not be married but for people to get married it's just a piece of paper or it will lead to divorce. That 's how the stupid people in the world feel. I don't get it either I got married next I start a family.
2006-09-15 04:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some feel that if they are financially secure and able to care for a child, then why not. Since the divorce rate is 1 to 2 why get married
2006-09-15 04:50:23 · answer #11 · answered by jozwiak36 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋