when do you know it's the right time to do it...
2006-09-15 04:46:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I met my present partner through work, we started dating after about 4 weeks and I moved in to his flat about 2 weeks after that! Less than 4 weeks after moving in with him, we got a place of our own. We've been together over 4 years and are saving up to buy a house. There're no children involved (and none planned just yet!), we both work and we have been honest from the start. We pay equally into our home, we both do housework, it's all shared. From the very beginning, we also discussed what we would do with the furniture etc if we split up.
However, if I could turn the clock back, I know that I would have waited a bit longer before we lived together. The main reason, for me, would be so that we could have experienced 'dating' properly. You know like being walked to your front door after a night out, instead of coming home together.
Luckily for us, it's worked out fine. I would advise you to think very carefully about it and discuss it with your partner properly. Be honest about what you want and what you expect from each other. I know I sound like a hypocrite but don't rush it!
Everyone is different, for some couples it's OK to move in with each other after 6 months. For others it may take 6 years. When/if the time is right for your relationship, you will know.
2006-09-15 05:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by roxpox99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready to make a commitment like you would if you were getting married. Isn't that what it's all about, like being married only without the paper. When you are willing to have his child, in case you end up pregnant. It should not be to try each other out. Unless you have the commitment to be like your are married, you won't put the work it is going to take to make it work. If you just try each other out, when it gets rough you'll just walk away! I married the first time for just short of 7 yrs. In a 21yr live in relationship now and have had my bags packed and at the door several times, but keep working it! Best of luck with your decision!
2006-09-15 04:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will feel right and you wont have to ask you will just know something will tell you it is right!!! But you will have to have a very strong relationship as living with someone is totally different to just knowing them and having a normal relationship together. The commmitment of moving in is tough and also it is like getting to know the person all over again!!!! (sometimes fun)
2006-09-18 05:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I moved in after 6 months because my flatmate moved out and left me in the lurch - turned out to be the best move ever. Think you just know if its the right time, plus if you do it before you are married at least you know if you are truly suited because when you live together you cant hide annoying habits and quirks. If it is true love it will be the best thing you could ever do. and if not at least you will know before you pay ££££££££ on a wedding!
2006-09-15 04:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Stealthy Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are always at his house or he is always at yours.Might as well have one home.Less bills and you'll never be lonely.I have been living with my bf since Christmas.We had dated almost a year.We lived in different towns and we were spending a lot of time and money traveling back and forth.we are very happy now and not so tired from driving back and forth so much.Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-09-15 04:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question then it isn't right yet. You will just know when you are ready to move in with someone with or without a "commitment' becuase living with someone IS a commitment.
2006-09-15 04:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by qtpie2526 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you spend most of your nights together anyway... When it feels totally wrong to be apart... when you don't care if they've got bad habits... when the thought of living together makes you happy and excited scared, rather than just scared... when your other half feels exactly the same way....
Very best of luck. It's lovely living together. Don't forget your own independence and friends though.
2006-09-15 04:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously now is not the right time or you wouldn't even be asking the question, when the time is right you will know and just do it without having to ask for advice, good luck
2006-09-15 05:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I'm doing it officialy in a couple of weeks and we've been together 7 and half months. Its up to you and how comfortable you feel with eachother.
2006-09-15 04:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time feels right....you will both know.
2006-09-15 04:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋