An awkward situation?

Question

How would you feel if your girlfriend has only one breast and lost the other breast to cancer? Because my girlfriend has only one breast and I am very freaked out when I was feeling her up and found out that she has only one breast. How scary. What should I do?

Answer 1

if you love her accept it.

Answer 2

I agree with some of the other responses. She should have told you about this. I don't think anyone blames you for being freaked out. The next thing I would do, is sit down and have a long talk. Get her to tell you everything about this experience. Maybe have her show you the scars and look at this in a non-sexual way. I'm just thinking that if you can both get past all the details and giving you an opportunity to really look and understand, it might end up then not being an issue, cause you've brought it out into the open. I would also ask things like "have you ever thought about getting reconstructive surgery to create a breast?" Now is your time to ask all the questions and get it out in the open.

If you then feel like you can't deal with it. Then I think you can tell her so in a much more compassionate way and understand that it truly is something that you can't get past.

Don't feel bad about the way you feel for one thing. But be sure to treat her with respect and compassion.

Answer 3

Love her for everything she is. Just remember, what ever you are feeling she is feeling worse. She is probably always thinking about how you feel about it. She would probably cry if she knew that you posted this question online, I know I would if it were me. I think that you are being a bit selfish, and I don't mean to insult you by any means. Think about your girlfriend, and what she has been through. She has not only lost a breast, she has fought, and will continue to fight cancer. That is really scary. If you can't understand that you should let her go. Let her rejoin with someone who loves her for her, regardless of what she looks like. I pray someday you don't have to learn the hard way. Imagine yourself deformed from an accident, cancer, or other ailment. Can you imagine your loved ones turning their back on you because of something you had no control over?? Saying that you scared them because of how you looked?? You need to turn the tables and think of how you would feel. I pray for your girlfriend and the strength to get through her unfortunate times.

Answer 4

you know that is awkward. But the one thing that you should think about is what attracted you to her in the first place. Judging by your question it does not appear that you have been with her long. But understand that she has been through a lot. Her appearance is probably the least of her worries. Also if she feels insecure about it then I believe that there are organizations that raise money to pay for breast implants to women who have lost their breasts or breast after breast cancer. Or if she is not insecure about then try getting past it.

Answer 5

To say its all about the spirit & love is stupid!....How long have you 2 been together? If this (Breast)( Physical) really an important factor in any relation your in it. Then its better to end thing before i goes out of hands.
Because if you are ok now...after a while you will start regreting things & maybe start cheating on her. Save her the pain.
To continue or not depends on your expecations & what do you really want after 1 or 2 years from now.
Good luck

Answer 6

Calm down, her apprehension and trepidation are probably greater than yours, despite determination to overcome the trauma of her situation. Think of this not as your sexy dream bubble being popped, but an opportunity to demonstrate your caring for her. You two can make the adjustment together, providing you're willing. I have met friends who have had one body part or another removed (one even said she's getting sent to heaven one part at a time, what a sense of humor), and as you must know, only people who were shallow found it problematic. Be deep.

If you can't handle it (in a manner of speaking), cut her loose. Free her up to find someone more capable of dealing with the facts of life.

Watch out for testicular cancer, prostate cancer (and difficulties), erectile dysfunction (can 'pop up' at any unexpected time) and other conditions which can occur among men. Good luck.

Answer 7

Having one breast doesn't make her any less a person/woman. Treat her the same as you would any other G/F (just might stay away from feeling up the missing side though). If you like someone it shouldn't matter, even though a little awkward at first after a while you won't notice. And how would i feel? I would be happy she still is alive!

Answer 8

I think you need to grow up a bit im sure that it was wierd at first but be a man and tell her she is just as beautiful with one.Think about how she feels im sure its not easy for her.And you acting all freaked out will only make things worse.Dont think about what shes missing think about all she has and can offer you.Shes been through hell and all she need is to be treated like shes not any diffrent from anyone else.

Answer 9

Respect the fact that she's still here on this earth. Breast cancer kills a lot of women. She, too, may still be self-consious about it and that's why she hasn't told you. How would you feel if you lost part of your manhood?

Answer 10

It's best to talk openly but carefully about it. Don't sweep it under the carpet.... that wouldn't be good for either of you. You could simply start by asking, "Are you comfortable talking about your mastectomy?" I'll bet you'll find that she will WANT to talk to you about it.

Many women attach great self-worth to their breasts, and the loss of one or both can be a significant blow to their self-esteem, so tread carefully. If you really care for her, let her know that, but also be honest about your awkward feelings.

Answer 11

Let my ask you ... Are you dating her or her breasts? If you like the girl just accept it , just like if you have one of your B missing or would you like your girlfriend get upset about it?