I met a girl 6 years ago in my hometown. We really hit it off and became intamate for a few weeks. She then moved to Fresno to go to college, and quickly got a boyfriend. In the last six years she would usually come to my town to visit family at least 4 or 5 times a year. During these visits we would usually hang out, sometimes intamate, sometimes not. We constantly talk on the phone and text each other. She has told me that she loves her boyfriend as well as me. I feel like I also love her. Sometimes I feel like a loser because I can't stop thinking about her and she has a boyfriend. She recently finished school and is moving back to my town in a few months. She and her boyfriend are also calling it quits. Since it's been so long that we could'nt have each other, it seems like expectations are really high. It's gonna be cool, yet wierd to see each other whenever we want. I feel like if we screw this up now I just wasted alot of time. How do you suggest handling this situation?
2006-09-15 04:36:30 · 3 answers · asked by Smirx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Very very casually.
It's been a loose comfortable friendship -- keep that intact. Spend time together like you always have and enjoy each other's company. Avoid the tempation to press or define how you feel towards each other.
She may choose to find another boyfriend.
It's possible, but if you value the friendship, that can be kept intact.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 04:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you are saying. You obviously have your heart in the right place, so whatever happens, you seem like you would put your best foot forward always. That's great. The only thing I would like to tell you is that you should make sure you not let her use you as a stepping stone to get over her ex, adjust to moving from college to work, being back in town and so on. She is obviously in a transitional fase of her life and often the people that we choose to help us cross such a period, don't make it to the other side with us. So just take it easy and be honest and open with her about whatever is going on with you. Good luck.
2006-09-15 11:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish, you both could choose to focus on getting to know each other better... ask questions about each others most important hopes & dreams.
You could find out what you're most important needs are... then go from there & see if the relationship grows stronger/closer.
2006-09-15 11:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋