I just found out that my wonderful loving beautiful understanding fiancee' is leaving me. After 3 years and a few bumps in the road she is unhappy and doesn't want to be with me anymore :( She has become my best friend and shes not only my longest relationship(but my favorite) is there a way to save it without counseling?
2006-09-15 04:19:18 · 20 answers · asked by rjbw110708 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she doesn't want to be with you there isn't much you can do about it except be thankful she didn't marry you and then decide she didn't want to be with you.
2006-09-15 04:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful this has happened before the wedding took place. Depends on what all the issues are, but first communicate with her. Apparently counselling is not an option, so it is entirely on you to lead the discussion.
Maybe the "bumps" in the road were more like craters to her.
Find out and then if you have to .... move on.
2006-09-15 04:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship involves two people. You can kick and scream and try to talk to her but it sounds like her mind is made up. Let her go for a few days then call her to she if she is willing to talk about her leaving. It sounds like she didn't have a reason for leaving except that she is unhappy. But in my opinion when somebody is unhappy in a relationship that person needs to communicate those feelings to the partner. She doesn't have good communication skills, so like I said give her a few days and see where it goes from there.
I'm truly sorry you have to go through this. Who knows, maybe you will realize she wasn't the one.
2006-09-15 04:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always something that she dislikes about you that made her leaves you in the first place. Find out why then try to reconcile or solve the problem.You still have a 2nd chance if you can find out the truth.By the way, girls love to be with romantic and caring guys. At this moment, spend more time with her, be there when she needs you.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 04:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by wan2knowhow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to avoid counseling? Heavens, if counseling will help do it. But to save the relationship you BOTH have to fully commit to the counseling. If either of you holds back it can not work. If she leaves you anyway.... go to counseling to find out why you are afraid of counseling!
2006-09-15 04:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did she say why she was leaving? Talk to her. Try to work out the issue. Most important, treat her well. There must be something that caused her to feel this way. Are you doing what a good man should do?
2006-09-15 04:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by peace1274 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant really answer this because IV never been asked but if up and runs just because of a few problems then that's her problem i don't mean to be harsh or any thing but its the the truth i mean if she really loved you then she would work past those problems
2006-09-15 04:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by purplegrimreper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about going away on vacation and giving it a final go to see if there is any spark left? Perhaps she's just overwhelmed. Sometimes if you get away, you can see more clearly. If it's just the two of you and no one to interfere, you may get her to open up more and tell you what's going on.
2006-09-15 04:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is over. Move on and respect her wishes. She has met someone else so thank her for doing you a favor. Now you will finally meet your soul mate in the near future, :-)
2006-09-15 04:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be, however if she wants it to end, then you might want to let it end, so that you can save both of you some grief.
I think in this instance it'll probably be a "hit or miss" kind of situation. Good luck.
2006-09-15 04:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE IS SO WONDERFUL,LOVING,BEAUTIFUL, AND UNDERSTANDING, THEN YOU MUST HAVE DID SOMETHING EXTREMELY TERRIBLE FOR HER TO WANT TO END WHAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE HAD FOR 3YRS! AND IF SHE HAS NOT ONLY BEEN THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, BUT ALSO YOUR BEST FRIEND, THEN IT DOES NOT MAKE ANY SINCE WHY THE TWO OF YOU CAN NOT SIT DOWN AND DISCUSS THIS MATTER WITH ONE ANOTHER OPENLY, HONESTLY & LOGICALY!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-15 05:25:35 · answer #11 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋