Online affair?

Question

I am not getting what i need at home and iv'e told my husbabd a thousand times this, i have met a man online and we talk about everything...my husband dosnt know....am i having an affair? This man knows im married so is he,is it wrong that we make each other feel better emotionaly?

Answer 1

as long as you keep in "online" and not over the phone or even worst, in person, your okay. if you cannot get the release you need at home, its not right!

being wanted and needed, or just listened too is one of the biggest desires of most women...and men!

good luck to you!

Answer 2

Could you survive without this online friend? Would you leave your husband for this online friend? How attached are the two of you?

You may not be having an affair currently; but the answers to these questions, and other similar ones, will help you know if you could end up having an affair down the road.

Affairs don't "just happen"--there are lots of little steps along the way that get you to the affair.

I hope you husband gives you some of what you need AND you stop telling this online friend everything and maybe tell it to you husband.

If he (your husband is not a good talker or communicator try communicating those deep things to him via e-mail or try chatting with your husband online. You do that with a stranger already, so why not do it with you husband and build that communication bridge a bit???

Good luck.

Answer 3

I do not think that you are having an affair in the traditional sense but you are looking outside of your marriage to get emotional support from another man. Honestly if you are making every effort to address the issues with your husband and he isn't resonding then that should tell you something. My wife did something similar but she met the guy while we were on vacation together and they were talking sex stuff and she was telling her friends about the rush that she was getting from it. The problem was that she was being so shady about it that i caught on and checked out her emails. She was way over the line. We still aren't becasue of this and I am still not sure if I can get past it. So just be careful, because it could bloew up in your face

Answer 4

It depends .. if he is just someone you talk to like a best friend then no. But if there are more romantic feelings involved on both parties its called a emotional affair. If you want your marriage to work, set boundaries with your friend online, don't cross them and go into counseling with your husband. I have been in your shoes btw with my ex husband. I felt my ex husband was more of a room mate. Met amazing man online, we talked and emotions grew. Needless to say I am now married to the man I had the emotional affair with.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 5

You say you're not getting what you need at home...then why instead of searching for "something" in the Internet, you talk to your husband, and tell him EVERYTHING that's going on? Go to a therapist or something, that's really helpful sometimes.

If you're not happy with your husband, then you should reconsider why you are still married with him, because if you really loved him, I don't think you would be asking this question.

And YES...YOU ARE HAVING AN AFFAIR...an emotional one, at least. Because your husband doesn't even knows you're talking with another man behind his back.

Answer 6

If you are not telling your husband then yes you are having an affair. The internet is a dangerous place, be very careful out there. You could end up getting in trouble or getting that other individual in trouble. If you need people to talk to, why not just go to a therapy group or talk to some of your friends.

Answer 7

Yes it is, anytime you go anywhere else for comfort of another man it is an affair. You need to sit and make you husband listen to you or get out of the marriage. But make sure it is what you want first.

Answer 8

yes, it is an affair. It may not be sexual, but you are cheating on your husband. How would you feel if your husband was sharing his thoughts, ideas, dreams, beliefs, and even his fears or triumphs with some one else? I think that this kind of affair is worse than a sexual one. when you cheat on a spouse sexually you are only sharing your body, but what you are doing is sharing your heart. if you are not happy in your marriage then you need to get out of it because what you are doing is not only going to hurt you, your husband,( and children if you have any) in the long run...it is going to hurt your"friend's" wife and family too. No one should be unhappy in a marriage. if you are not emotionally happy/fulfilled then don't drag it out.

Answer 9

just be aware that someone is going to get hurt especially if children are involved. If you can just use it as a friendship tool and not cross the line I say OK. but what about his wife I don't think she will take it too kindly. Might even trash his PC if upset enough. Hope things can be worked out if not get divorced then no guilt.

Answer 10

If you are supporting each other during times of distress, then its not an affair. If you start meeting after work and get physical, then it is an affair.

Answer 11

god no your friends and sometimes its easier to talk to an online person that your not personally aquainted with than even a family friend...look dont worry about this affair thing your not doing anything wrong at all, you and he are just sharing some of the same ideas and its a wonderful thing. enjoy it