Now I may be reading into this too much but when my wife and I are walking, anywhere but lets say on the beach, she always starts to walk in front of me, not with me. If I stopped she would be 100yrd ahead of me before she realized that I wasn’t there. To me I find that kind of offensive in a way that she is only thinking of herself. I could be wrong but do you think this is being selfish, clueless, self-centered or anything on that line.
I myself am conscious about everything and everyone around me. I always look to make sure she is close (not in a controlling way by no means) but would you feel the same if it were you? And if you do the same why?
2006-09-15 03:57:35 · 10 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well in my case, I walk faster than my husband and when we would walk on the beach I would be ahead of him. I was like lost in the beauty of the beach and the fact that I was with him and felt safe. Believe me I am always aware of my surroundings when I am by myself or with my kids. However I guess when I am with him I feel like he is going to watch out for me so I can just relax. Then before I know it, I ahead of him. I think that he felt the same way as you. We talked about it and when I told him my reasons he was touched. So now I try to keep the same pace as him and if I get ahead he will just say "honey" and then I will stop and wait. I just felt like I had to answer this question because it had happened to me. Maybe you should ask her as maybe she feels like I did and do. Just a thought. Maybe just lost in the moment feeling safe with you.
2006-09-15 04:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by aleynam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are walking on the beach, why not walk hand in hand? Or any place else for that matter. It sounds to me like this woman does it out of habit. Either she's a fast walker and you need to pick up the pace, or she's use to leading. I don't agree it's a selfish or self centered thing to do, like I said...just a habit. If you want to break it, reach for her hand and walk together.
2006-09-15 04:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we walk together we hold hands off and on, some times one of us will see some thing and sprint off to it like a child and the other will follow, we also talk to each other the entire time we are walking. If can be some thing important or some thing small. Communicate with her, when she starts to walk away catch up with her with out her noticing the effort, gently turn her in your arms,kiss her and tell her you love her, then hold her hand and strike up a conversation. After you get her attention let go if her hand if it gets sweaty. If you see her start to wander off again, take her hand again, and comment, "This is so nice walking with you I love to have you here by my side". Go about just like you where before. Be soft and love her! Think back to when you first fell in love.
2006-09-15 04:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by jn46036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being too sensitive there are fast walkers and slow walkers and just because she doesn't fall into step with you does not make her less considerate. There are also variables how tall is she does she weigh less than you do? Does she have longer legs all these things are factors and the truth is you probably married this woman for her differences so if you want to slow her down a little reach out and take her hand.
2006-09-15 04:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My spouse and I do the same things...as for the walking situation, that's kinda weird! if you are out anywhere together it should be because you want to be out together right? So why is she not concious of things like that? If we are out walking the dog, and my hubby gets far ahead it's usually because of the dog, not because he's getting away form me! Ask her why she is on a rush? Maybe she doeas not realize what she is doing. Hold hands and be romantic, then she can't escape!! lol
2006-09-15 04:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and i dnt do the same thing. Not in a million years. I dnt know why your wife is doing that. I thonk yuouishould let her sit down and talk to her about it. She is your wife and you shouldnt be scared of what her answer will be. You can then resolve the problem.
2006-09-15 04:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dnt do da same but i control myself not to and if i do its only like one pace in front its only becasue i walk faster than my bf bt i stop as soon as i relised becasue i dnt want to maek him fell unsecure and plus im always holdin on to his hadn wen i do it so its not dat bad. also now dat ive stoped myself from doin it we are more happy and at ease wiv oursels tell ur wife its botherin u. tell her it make su feel intimidated and self concious ask her if shes embares to walk next to u or if u smell! jus majke it clear u dnt like it!!!
2006-09-15 04:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur are not in sync. Hold her hands when you are walking together. Make it a habit. Tell her you want it this way.
2006-09-15 21:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy walks ahead of me but i'm okay with it because he always cheacks back to make sure i'm there he doesn't like people up next to him he has a few boundry issues in his life
2006-09-15 04:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep up and start working out...she wants u to romance her
2006-09-15 04:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋