Why Do I Attract Women, But Not Men?

Question

I am a bisexual girl in a loving relationship with a woman. My girlfriend and I always laugh on how men always hit on her, while I get hit on by women all the time. I think I am super femme, but maybe I look more dykeish than I think? Or do I just give out some strong lesbian pheronomes? =D

Hahahaha Rabbit, your stories were funny. I think my GF and I are pretty hot. I don't think I am scruffy or poorly-educated. Guys and girls have said I have an aura about me, but I guess like someone else said, I probably tend to smile at girls more, while my partner is a total flirt when it comes to men.

Claire, I have a 360 page that is linked to this profile.

Answer 1

That reminds me of a couple of stories in my experience. In one, I was a security guard while working my way through college. I was talking to my supervisor about two women I saw that always tend to be together and seem "closer" than just a couple of female co-workers. One of them was always in pants, plain and drab, the other always in dresses and "frills", a really pretty woman that always dressed beautifully. He said he knew them and got quiet. "You know something" I teasingly prodded, wanting the details. "'Frills' is my sister-in-law and yes, what you've guessed is an uncomfortable family secret." If I were interested in either of the two, "frills" would have been my interest.

The other story was of one evening when I was at a fast-food place while on a trip. There was this obvious trailer-trash type of lesbians, really low-class women that were sitting at another table ahead of me and sharing a meal and conversation. One was fat and ugly--not just in appearance, but she had a gruff voice that fairly barked, and her attitude was awful. The other, while not pretty by most perspectives, had a much nicer attitude, a kinder voice, and simply beautiful hair that could stand a few minutes with a brush. As I mentioned, the one I found completely disgusting and rather than move, I simply turned a little to look out the window. But it was night and there was little to see--yet there was a dim reflection of the couple in the glass. So as I ate, in that lonely moment, I pondered the second woman. As I was almost finishing, the 'noisy whale' as I had characterized the first woman in my mind, toned her voice down half-a-notch as she told the second woman, "That guy over there has been admiring you in the window for twenty minutes now." I made no reaction, as if I didn't hear, but the second woman was plainly embarrassed and said, "I'm not interested in any man--you're teasing me!" Then she left, stepping outside to look at me in the window to see if it was true. The cow laughed and then left two, as did I in an opposite direction.

I'm not calling you a cow, you are probably a very beautiful woman, but sometimes men make choices on a variety of aspects. Sometimes, a woman fits their picture of desireable, sometimes it is simply a choice of one between two and the one seems more valuable by whatever degree. If you are very feminine, then I would probably be interested in you, but in the company of your partner I would not approach you if the nature of your partnership is too obvious. On the other hand, there may be something about your partner's voice, eyes, hair, all the other stuff that a man may key on, in comparison you are the planer Jane even though other factors work in your favor. It is hard to see without seeing, or hearing--your voice and attitude may be jarring to some male ears, rightly or wrongly. Still, it could simply be an issue of the kinds of men you meet, usually accompanyied by where you meet them, so change the setting and see if the results differ. Good luck.

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Answer 3

Attractive features of men are like this: A nice and cute face, Their eyes, Moderate amount of Chest hair, Their legs (with some hair) A sexy voice, Cool hair, Muscles, Good teeth, Oh, and they could have a really attractive body and all, but if their personality sucks then it ruins the whole sexy vibe. For example, take Joe Flanigan (google him), I find him very sexy because he has a beautiful face, has hot chest, and such cute black hair.

Answer 4

i was feminine looking and, if i don't mind saying so, quite attractive when i was in college. i rarely got hit on by men (and also rarely hit on by women, but this was a small midwest town.) I didn't really care to be. Later, I found out that there were lots of guys who thought i was attractive and really wanted to talk to me, but weren't brave enough. i was "intimidating"... funny, i was actually incredibly shy. i think i had other things on my mind, and they could tell. you may not give off "lesbian pheremones" but you might be a "mysterious woman" and guys, though they find that attractive, are scared as all hell to talk to one. in fact, they may talk to your girlfriend to get a better look at you.

Answer 5

It's probably not the way you look as much as the way you are perceived by other people in terms of personality. You can be dykish but if you have a good-natured personality, LOTS of people will be drawn to you. My guess would be that you are perceived awkwardly by men... you are going to have to think of why, though. Ask your girl to observe you!

Answer 6

Could be. Could be that you naturally flirt with women more than men. Could be many things, none of which much matter, eh. Be yourself, that's the important stuff!

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Answer 8

i think u just give some strong lesbian pheronomes. hey lesbians and bisexuals are hot. it's a gift.

Answer 9

probably your not hot enough or your just to hot, na never mind the last comment

Answer 10

What dif does it make? You are with someone, so you dont need to have men or women trying to pick you up. Be happy and have fun with your girl.