2006-09-15 03:48:10 · 12 answers · asked by ethel67 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Always remember to attempt to see the situation from their point of view too. You may not agree, but you will at least be able to listen a little better.
2006-09-15 03:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Spirit Walker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean me... or are you saying how does one make it easier to confront people?
Let us consider the motivation to do so for a moment. It what one wants to confront is some behavior a person exhibits, is this something the person does intentionally, or unintentionally?
If done intentionally, just to aggravate or get a rise out of people, then your reluctance to confront is well founded... since you don't want to be this person's plaything, right?
If unintentional, is the action such that it cannot be simply overlooked? Is it a "need to control" [or make the other like what one wants the other to be] behind the need to confront the person? If its your own agenda wanting to control, then this is dishonest, and this will cause some reluctance... which is a good thing.
In any case, direct confrontation is a risky business because it will either cause another to be embarrassed, and to feel bad, or to be angry which is a way to mask feeling bad. It's probably best to quietly accept things unless they put you or others in danger. If immanent danger is the problem, then convert your fear into forceful expression and use it to confront the danger.
If the one you want to "confront" is a friend, then "confront" may not be the correct term. Help, encourage to change, help to change, nudge toward a better choice... are perhaps more appropriate thoughts to hold regarding what you want to achieve.
Peace.
2006-09-15 11:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay 15 feet away from the person you feel the need to confront, and instead of making accusations, or vowing revenge, frame your complaint in the form of a question such as, "Do you always...". Once you confront a person it becomes much much easier to do it in the future shuld the need arise. of course, you could always pay off a witch to cast a curse instead!
2006-09-15 11:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by cello_drama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You approach them in a gentle non-threatening manner and ask to have a word with them. Then you proceed to explain the situation in a non aggressive tone that won't put the party on the defensive. You also allow them to explain their views also so that everyone can have their input and the situation is diffused all together.
2006-09-15 11:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by December Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them 1st that you mean no offense and explain how the other person's behavior hurts you or has a negative affect on you. Avoid strong words such as "really", "bother/bug", "annoy", "hate", "you" etc. Avoiding starting a sentence off with the word "you" takes a lot of the pressure off. Starting a sentence with, "When you do this, it makes me feel..." or "I am hurt when you do this." is better. Wording is everything.
2006-09-15 10:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by marathon688 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confident.
2006-09-15 10:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by JAMES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont confront them,if there bigger than you just bat em from behind.Queensbury might turn in his grave but then he dont live in 2006.
2006-09-15 10:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by martinsbits2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax, don't have your body in a position that looks attacking or disagreeable and speak calmly.
2006-09-15 16:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By practising what you would like to say to the person before hand.
2006-09-15 10:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by deadmanincz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make I statements rather than You statements.
2006-09-15 10:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋