Well I'm 20 I'm in college and I went on a date last night and I had a cute outfit picked out..designer jeans, peekaboo toe Jessica Simpson wedges, and a hott low-cut top. I do not sleep around or randomly mess around, and I date nice guys to meet potential boyfriends. So my roommate knows this and was like you can't wear that he's gonna view you as just someone to get in bed with. So is cleavage on a first date not classy? They weren't hangin all over the place but they were on display a little bit lol. What's the big deal?
2006-09-15 03:45:50 · 38 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
Guys are visual creatures. Cleavage speaks louder than words.
2006-09-15 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by RayRay 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm with everybody.....Just a litte bit of cleavage is not a big deal. No.1 it shows you are self-confident and enjoy your body. You think you a attractive and that always comes through to anyone you meet, not just potential boyfriends.
No.2 if it makes you feel good, then do it! First dates are fun & exciting and a bit scary. Adding a daring low cut top adds spice to the evening!
Have Fun!
2006-09-15 04:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dana T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I've got so much in the bust area that I show off cleavage wearing a turtleneck. As far as I'm concerned, showing a little cleavage isn't a bad thing at all. And if you want to show a lot, well that's perfectly fine for you. You just have to keep in mind that it might take a little longer to find someone who will not automatically see you just as a sex object. A real MAN will look you in the eyes and not in the chest, and he will respect you for who you are and not base his opinion on what you're wearing.
2006-09-15 03:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not classy. But it's not slutty either.
You have to think about the guy you are going out with, where you are going, what you will be doing, and how you want the guy to see you.
First, the guy. Is he a party boy, jock, scholar, science major, etc... The more wild and/or open he is, the more likely he is to read something into your attire that you weren't trying to say. This is just a generalization of course, but it's a good idea to think about.
Where you are going should be the first thing you think about when getting dressed. A bar or club almost requires sexy attire, where as a nicer resturant needs more coverage. Dress for the setting and occassion.
If you know that you will be sitting, then you should think about how the view from above looks. Bend over slightly in front of a mirror, or try looking down your own shirt. It sounds weird, but this is what other people will see when they walk by you. If you will be moving dancing, think about how the shirt holds up to the movement. Stand in front of your mirror and bounce up and down a few times, move around like you are dancing, see how the shirt moves with your body.
If this is a first date, and you don't want the guy to think you are going to jump into bed with him, it's up to you to set the tone. You have to show him that you are not on the open market, it's a hands-off display. So save the cleavage for later, and let him know with behavior how you expect to be treated. Once he gets the hint, he'll be ready for the view without reading anything into it.
There is a very fine line between looking attractive and looking available. I'm not talking about looking trashy or anything, but part of the signals you send to a guy come from the way you dress.
Examples:
Modest, nothing is shown from a front view, but slight cleavage from above or when bent over. Sexy and demure at the same time, you are letting him know that while you are interested, you aren't ready to encourage more than the date itself.
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2866109/0~2378467~2378483~2379455?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2379455&P=1
Inviting, slight cleft of cleavage is shown from the front, more when bent over or from above. Says to the guy that you are inviting him for a closer look, but not a touch. You want his attention, but no more than that.
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2891177/0~2378467~2378483~2379455?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2379455&P=1
Over the top, you show a lot of cleavage from the front, and it says to him that you want him to look, and the chance to touch WILL come later.
http://www.amazon.com/Carabella-Riveting-Super-Plunge-Sequined-Halter/dp/B000BJ7XQ4/sr=1-4/qid=1158334829/ref=sr_1_4/102-8251890-8375364?ie=UTF8&s=apparel
And, of course, the whole show, leaving little to the imagination. She is saying that not only will he get to touch, he'll get the whole package.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000F8X5CM/yahoo-apparel-20/ref=nosim
2006-09-15 04:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a little bit of cleavage. In moderation. Now if they are pretty much stiing on top of the shirt then no. Try to put a a short necklace on and it will make your shirt look less revealing. If the guy looks at you as someone to get in to the bed with he already had that on his mind so it really wouldn't matter if you wore a turtle neck and jeans or went on the date completley naked.
2006-09-15 03:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it not a big deal as long as you not start telling people the guy a Perv because he keeps checking the cleavage out. Not sure if he did that not my business. I wait and if the conversation goes well, I will usually look and compliment the woman on her cleavage. I assume they show it to be seen.
2006-09-15 03:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its no big deal. You sound like you had a classy outfit on...I mean what do people expect you to wear? a ball gown? it was just a date and showing a little cleavage is perfectly fine as long as you keep it simple and classy.
She's probably mad because she wears turtle necks on her dates!
2006-09-15 03:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by lovelye513 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with showing a little cleavage and wearing tight jeans. If you got it, flaunt it baby. Feel good about yourself. You sound like you have good confidence too so I don't see any big deal at all.
2006-09-15 05:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you go. To a club, sure flaunt it. But a one-on-one date, I would hold off. You want conversation, not a distractor on the first date. It's hard for them not to stare. But then again, he probably checked out how you looked in your jeans too. I don't see anything wrong with a little tease.
2006-09-15 03:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm all for it, don't see a problem with it, do it myself...people always say to accentuate your best feature, just so happens mine is my cleavage. And the last first date I had, yeah, the girls were on display...but we are now talking about getting married.
2006-09-15 03:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that you seem to be a righteous person, I don't think a little cleavage should make you a person seeking to transgress.
In fact, it may keep the person you're dating more interested in you than people around you - thus giving you his undivided attention.
Guys are the same thing. I like showing a little muscle and like the idea that a little bit of my tattoo appear.
A little bit of "show" is not slutty or egotiscal. It show's that you're happy with yourself and not inhibited.
For example, would you be attracted to this person if he showed up wearing a suit of armour?
I know it's a bit extreme, but of course not.
Just don't get mad, if you catch him taking a little peek.
We simply can't help it *L*
2006-09-15 03:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by The Mac 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋