Well ive been with my boyfriend for a good while now and ive never felt this way about ne1 before. I really love him and ive changed alot for the better.Well it doesnt bother me that much that i know he looks at other girls, but it really does hurt me when he checks out my bestfriends.I see it as disrespectful and ive never dont that to him with his friends.I see his friends as just people and whats really inside.I dont care about looks, because they can only take you so far.He see's this as theres nothing wrong with it, but i feel so hurt and disappointed in him, because i thought he was better than that and i expected he had alil more respect for me.I dont mind that he doesnt think their ugly, but checking them out just hurts. Am i wrong about feelings this waY?
2006-09-15 03:37:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-09-15 03:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you're wrong about feeling that way. You told him that it bothered you. If he keeps doing it, then he obviously doesn't respect you to stop. If he finds nothing wrong with it, then who's to say there are far more worse things he might make excuses about in the future. You have noticed this behaviour because your instincts are trying to warn you. I would be weary about him. It also depends on how long you've been together, and whether your friends have noticed and have said something to you. There might be a chance that you're over-reacting and he's not really checking them out?
2006-09-15 10:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell naw he's a pig because you know what just like you said after you get with someone and you start really caring about them, the homeboy that was cute when yall first met turns into "just a person" almost like his friends turn into family know what I'm saying? you had better watch that one because he has plenty of time to check out chicks when you two aren't together, but that fact that he has the nerve and audacity to don't it in front of you lets you know how it could turn out. the blatant lack of respect right in front of you makes you wonder how much he respects you and your relationship when your not around.....??? Remember A MAN WILL ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU LET HIM! I know you love him so first check him about the sh*t, if he still can't show some respect and self control let his *** go cause then it's clear that you, your relationship and your feelings don't mean sh*t to him. Nip that sh*t ion the butt now!
2006-09-15 10:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and if his wondering eye bugs you now... it'll just get worse... if you aren't enough for his eyes to behold, then he's a jerk! He is cheating on you in his head when he looks at another women, lets be honest, when a man is checking a woman out, he is definitely thinking things he shouldn't! If you can't handle it leave! you can find someone else... I know I wouldn't allow it! If you can keep your eyes to yourself, he should be able to also! it might take effort and hard work, because many women dress horribly these days, but if he loves you, he'd put forth the effort not to look!
2006-09-15 10:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is checking out other girls, then he is not for you, very disrespectful. He has not grown up as fast as you and it is time for you to drop him. There are some great people out in the world and you WILL find the right one. Trust Me.
2006-09-15 10:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by edna_romano_1943 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not wrong! it really hurts. I think u must go and ask him that " Listen dear all wat u do really hurts me" If he really cares for u den he will stop doing so or if he don't then be sure about how much he cares for u. I would never say that break up ur relation but there must be a care of feelings in relation otherwise it is not called as relation its just a rust. if he don't stops den u shld do sumthing that would get him in the fear of loosing you.
best of luck,
ms
2006-09-15 10:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by swati M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not! everyone is entitled to their own feelings and opinions..my bfs thing is that i can look but cant touch...but believe me he never touches....look..i know it hurts when ur man looks at other girls..maybe you should talk to him about it and ask him to not look at your best friends that way..maybe he really isn't looking at them in that way and maybe its just a misunderstanding..but if he has feelings for other girls..it is so much better to find out now than in a few months when u catch hI'm cheating. If i were you i would follow my heart...im sure if he loves you he wouldn't touch other girls....good luck and god bless!
2006-09-15 10:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent wrong for feeling this way. Tell him about your feelings and tell him how much it hurts. If he really cares he will respect it. If not then you may have fallen in love with the wrong guy.
2006-09-15 10:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by hatin_u_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no of coursr it is disrespectful.. you obviously care about him so no matter if people tell you to dump hi your not going to do that so i would just say to him why do you check my friend s out all the time and ask him whats more interesting and babe ensure you dont get hurt
2006-09-15 10:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by kazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, yes and no....you need to trust him. if you really trust him then start out a conversation with him by saying that you love him and trust him and you know that he would never cheat, but his checking out your friends does bother you. tell him that he may not understand you and that's okay, but he should at least respect your feelings on this issue.
2006-09-15 10:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by bbydol221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong, my boyfriend would always check out other girls, and that made me mad, it is disrespectful, i told him if he did not quit, i would leave becuase when he does that it makes me feel like crap. Tell him to quit his sh** or you will find someone who truly respects you
2006-09-15 10:47:39 · answer #11 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋