I am 27 and my bfr. is 46, he also has three children from his previous marriage.
I lived with him for over a year, and this cohabiting situation is bothering me.
I don't want to marry him, I don't think he is right for me. However, the fact that he is not offering to commit is bothering me.
I would never push him into that, cuz it wouldn't worth nothing. He has to come to it by himself.
Anyway I just want to know his reasons but I can't ask him directly.
Any suggestions on my situation???
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I've am divorced, have 6 yr.old, and my bfr. takes good care of me and my child.
I am attending school right now, and don't want to break up yet.
I find the comment about father figure interesting, cuz my dad was basicly ignoring me, though my mother was overprotective. And that's true that I am more drown to responsible, level-headed older man , the total opposite of my ex husband.
2006-09-15 03:36:50 · 9 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, older man are more with it financially and intelectually, I 'd like to lern from their experiances.
2006-09-15 03:51:57 · update #1
well i fyou dont wanna commit , how can he?
2006-09-15 03:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats rediculous give me a break this is not the man for you but your so hurt that he doesn't want to commit to you so you'd have him put his heart out there so you can what? Tell him no perhaps this man can see that he's not the one for you so he is not going to waste your time or his. The fact that he's good to you and your child is wonderful but come on if he gave you a ring and you said yes out of obligation you would be on here in five years looking for divorce info. This is not your ego were talking about this is a life long commitment and if he's not the one then thats that.
2006-09-15 04:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you looking for commitment from him ... it's obvious you are only interested in what he can do for you financially.
I suppose once you have finished school you plan on setting him free at that point, because he'll have less to offer you.
You plan on breaking up with him sooner or later .... ask him why he didn't want to commit to you --- afterall you express so much love so much for him.... NOT
For the record, if you have an ounce of decency you would be honest with him. No wonder men believe women are conniving b**ches. By the way, nice life lesson for your son too. Teach him early how to use people, he'll go far in life.
2006-09-15 03:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you are admitting that you want a commitment from him...but maybe just until you are finished with school... (you did say YET) Sounds like you are taking advantage of the situation. If you are in fact drawn to level headed older men...why do you not see the two of you being married in the future...unless your motives are to simply use him until you no longer need him? Maybe he knows this about you and this is why he has not committed to you.
2006-09-15 03:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a peace of work. You say "you don't want to marry this guy becuase you don't think he's right for you. But you have no problem takeing his money and support for you and your child. I wonder how long you will be around once you finish school. Sounds like he needs to get away from YOU.
2006-09-15 05:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you think a lot about yourself and not enough about others. You are insulted that he does not want to commit to you even though you really only want what he can offer you. How could he dare not want to commit to someone like you!!!!!
Hay don't get mad these are your words not mine......
I think you need to grow up and quit playing games, Do you really want your 6 year old to grow up seeing his/her mommy playing men for what they can do for her, because, that is exactly what you are teaching that child, how to be a player.........
2006-09-15 03:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so where are the interesting additional details?
2006-09-15 03:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a whore. maybe that's why he doesn't . and great education your giving your daughter
2006-09-15 03:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH I SEE NOW, YOU ARE A USER.
2006-09-15 03:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋