I am 27 and my bfr. is 46, he also has three children from his previous marriage.
I lived with him for over a year, and this cohabiting situation is bothering me.
I don't want to marry him, I don't think he is right for me. However, the fact that he is not offering to commit is bothering me.
I would never push him into that, cuz it wouldn't worth nothing. He has to come to it by himself.
Anyway I just want to know his reasons but I can't ask him directly.
Any suggestions on my situation???
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I've am divorced, have 6 yr.old, and my bfr. takes good care of me and my child.
I am attending school right now, and don't want to break up yet.
I find the comment about father figure interesting, cuz my dad was basicly ignoring me, though my mother was overprotective. And that's true that I am more drown to responsible, level-headed older man , the total opposite of my ex husband.
2006-09-15 03:35:31 · 5 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, but you stated you dont want to marry him, why is this a concern... Maybe he doesnt want to marry you either....
Your comment about him taking good care of you and your six year old, and you not wanting to break up yet just because you are in school makes you sound like a real loser.... You might want to re-read what you posted and think about what you are saying, it sounds like you are using the guy!!!!!
He might know that deep down and that might be why he wont commit!!!! The worst part about the situation is, your child is going to end up being hurt in the end b/c he/she has established a relationship with this man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MY OPINION: You need to GROW UP and figure out how to be a mom to your child, and let this man move on with this life...
He's not your sugar daddy!!!!
2006-09-15 03:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really makes no sense why you would want him to commit, when you know for certain he's not good for you.. Also, why would you live w/ man, having a son, and feeling this way about the situation... First of all, you can't make any man commit unless he wants to, so if he hasn't brought it up, he doesn't want to. A man that truely wants to be with you will tell you. Maybe not directy, but he will make mention. Like my bf hasn't proposed to me, but has mentioned us getting married one day... It's obvious you don't want to commit, and are in this relationship as a security for you and your son while you go to school.. It's not fair for him, you, nor your son..
2006-09-15 10:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you read what you wrote? People who have been divorced often are less likely to want to marry again cause they "failed" at it once. As for you it seems just like you are using him to make a better life for yourself which is wrong, you need to be honest with him about it.
2006-09-15 10:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bottom line, why are you putting yopur child thru having this daddy figure if you are not really wanting to be with him? if he's not right for you then nothing else should matter. you are making a difficult situation for your son. leave him now before your son get's even more attached.
2006-09-15 10:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by bbydol221 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get obver urself and move on now before you make any damage to your child..your child is becomin atatched wen he leaves teh "daddy" he will feel lonely and may take longer to atach to other people becarefull you could damage your child self esteem like dis!
2006-09-15 10:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋