i found out that my boyfriend of three years and a half slept with another girl. I was curios to who she was, so i texted her from my boyfriends phone and she asked "are you still dating that girl?" so i said "yes i am marrying her because shes pregnant" and she responded "well thats funny i thought i wa pregnant after we had sex too" i am outraged what shoul i do???
2006-09-15 03:13:02 · 30 answers · asked by gen w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
DUMP HIM. I know that you are pregnant and you are scared, but I'm telling you that if this guy is marrying you because you are pregnant, you will be more miserable with him, raising this baby, then if you were alone raising this baby. No woman should ever be so scared of a future alone that they marry some guy who sleeps around and doesn't really love them. You owe your child someone in their life who loves their mother and really loves them.
My advice: Text the girl back and tell her that she can have him and then help him pack. Tell every friend and family member that you have that you will be raising this baby alone and you would love if you could count on their support. If you don't have that, find out what resources are in your area for single mothers-support groups, clubs, etc. Don't make the mistake of being with someone out of fear and because he is the father of your child. Fantasies look great, but reality is where you want to live.
2006-09-15 03:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok... so here's the thing.
Both you and your "boy" friend were/are having unprotected sex... now your having a baby, he might be having babies possibly... your both not married... He's CLEARLY not committed to you, and he could have possibly exposed you and your unborn child to STD's or worse. He has been lying to you (for who know's how long) and has been having unprotected sex with another female... although there may be other women as well.... and now you're asking what should you do?
Hummmmm. Seriously...Pray! and pray earnestly that you'll be able to shift your focus and consider your future and the future of your unborn child. Trust has been broken and you will need to mature and carefully consider the type of person(s) you invite into your life.
You have absolutely NO control over his actions now or in the future... so don't try to figure out why he's chosen to treat you this way, because in the end it will drive you crazy and hurt even more. You need to realize that you do have control over your choices from this moment forward.
Calmly state your feelings to him without getting wild and crazy emotionally. Be very matter of fact about what you know and how his actions have effected you. No need to yell and scream, because it's important that you always realize now that you are carrying a new life inside of you.... any response or behavior (positive or negative) from you or that you're exposed to will effect your child directly. So be cool. Say what you need to... and calmly move on with no hassel.
Handle your business and make sure he handles his end of the financial and emotional responsiblity for your child. Pick up the pieces of your heart and then focus your attention on being the best mother possible to your child.
2006-09-15 03:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you know he has been sleeping with some one else the best thing is to get out of the relationship with him and move on.
If he loved you he would never have cheated on you and should of though of you the whole time.
You can live your life only worrying about you and your childs health.
No one deserves to be treated unfaithfully...he should be ashame of himself that he even though he could get away with it.
Break up with him and tell him how u found out and act like you don't give a damn if you want through his stuff, it was better to find out now the never.
Look at it this way, you can live ur lif e as a single mother with your child and you be SO COOL at it...trust me my anuty want through what ur going through now and the best thing that she proud of his that she left him.
her daughter and her are so close they tell each other everything and she hasn't had a b/f for a while but she met a guy and he loved her so much coz she gets along with her child so well and she is a good mother.
So i hope the same luck for you and leave him coz u got your own life.
2006-09-15 03:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that you found out before you married him. I know that it's hard, but he obviously has issues with being faithful. You should allow him to be a part of the baby's life, but dump him. If after 3 years of dating he wasn't sure of his feelings for you.....then it's not meant to be. This baby should be your focus. You can make a great life for your baby without being in a "relationship" with the father.
2006-09-15 03:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Amy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this huy isint trust worthy.ok for the time being he wil stay calm with u and will shower u false love.but what in the years later.hez going to be the same.he did this once he willdo it again.whats the use.b4 he thinks to dump u u take the initiative
2006-09-15 03:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by nazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your not pregnant you just said it to see what response you got well nothing like hearing it first hand you don't even need to hear the excuses your boyfriend will give so walk away...
2006-09-15 03:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question. I would get out now. You'll have to get support from your family to help you through your pregnancy and your "boyfriend" will legally have to support you. He sounds like a nice catch anyway, Get rid. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
2006-09-15 03:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends...do you want to be a single mother, try and work things out or illiminate him from the equation (though to a lot of people that's not an option)
big qu : can you trust him again?
2006-09-15 03:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by northukstudent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront him and ask him the truth and then right there and then break off with him. Keep the baby ..once you have the baby you wont regret cos she or he will be the greatest joy in your life!!
2006-09-15 04:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, you and the baby deserve better especially if he chaeted on you whilst you were pregnant.
2006-09-15 03:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋