I still love my ex-wife, she was very business like and we hardly ever dated. The kids came first. She wanted the kids to have what she never had growing up, I guess dance classes twice a week is what she missed out on. I just wanted our kids to be kids and not control their life like my dad still does to me. I have made lots of mistakes in my marriage. I have defended my wife even though she said I never did. I admit, I am still afraid of my father. I was afraid of my wife. She has always gotten made at me for not making the money she does. She's a RN and makes 26 an hour, I never take risks because my father taught me never to take chances because I would fail, but she said I would suceed. I trusted her. I quit my 11.30 an hour job to get my CDL license, after I did I was quiet scared of the jobs that were out there. I would turn down jobs like would take me out of state for weeks at a time, she got mad and finally had enough of me turning down jobs.
2006-09-15 03:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, Bobby, this is tough. I don't want to be mean, but you have to learn to stand up for yourself. Quit blaming your father for what you cannot do. He was probably put down by his father and if you are not careful you will do that to your children as well. Perhaps you need some counseling to help you to get over your fear of life.
Apparently you married a strong woman and it takes a special kind of man to be with a strong woman because you have to be strong yourself or else she will run all over you and eventually become tired and move on. I too would be angry if my husband quit his job to start a new career and then refused to take any jobs that were offered to him. Why are you scared of the CDL jobs? You really have alot of issues to work out within yourself and until you do you will not be the man you were meant to be.
As far as staying by your kids or going to Dad? Stay with your children. They need their father.
2006-09-15 03:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time you took the first risk of your life.
Go back to your $11.30/hour job, find a place you can afford to live --- where ever that may be. It might be close to your children, it might be close to your dad and it might not be close to anyone.
Figure out what will make you happy for a change, find someone who is happy with themselves and will be happy with you.
Move on, take the risk, invest in yourself for a change of pace..... you may just discover you are worth it.
2006-09-15 10:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown man now and need to stop blaming others for your perceived failures in life.
Seek professional therapy to overcome your fears from your father and ex wife. What can either one do to you? You are allowing them to control you.
You must take control of your life for yourself and the well being of your children. Yes they need a father in there life as well as a mother.
See a therapist to help you through. It took years for you to get to this point it will take some time to discover who you are.
Without risks and failures there is no success.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 10:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you need to( not only for yourself but your children). Moving away from your children will make it harder then it already is on them. You need to work where you will be happy but also still be the father you should be to your children. It takes money to support your children it however doesn't cost a dime to be their father. They may not understand why you can't afford to get them the things they want/need but when they grow up they will understand you did what you could and you loved them.
2006-09-15 10:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the pay is, youve got to work the job that youre comfortable with. If you were afraid of your ex-wife, thats not normal, I wouldnt get back with her. I wouldnt go live with your dad either. That doesnt sound like a healthy place for you either.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2006-09-15 10:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. get a grip. be a man and grow up. it shouldnt matter how much an hour you make. there have been times where i make more than my husband and vice versa. she sounds petty to worry about what you make. BUT, you need to be willing to try and advance. a cdl is great. why did you get it if you arent willing to use it. AND you should definately stay by your kids. why would you want to live by your father who tells you you'll fail. i would never tell my son that. what a jerk!
2006-09-15 10:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are things that you need to work out
but as for you moving with your father and leave your children behind that is nota good thing
Now that you are away form both controlling realationship you need to take time to get to know yourself and try to learn to take chances while your are still around your children
Good Luck
2006-09-15 10:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋