He has strarted smoking. I had a brain aneurysm about 11 years ago and I hate this. He is smart in school, but, right now all he is getting is F's. One day he is in a good mood, the next he is totally opposite. Drugs??? He hates my boyfriend, and I hate that, because, I love them both so very much. I give him a time to be home and he is almost always an hour or so late. He has gotten fired from his job for not being there. He was a very good worker. He drew his hand back as if to hit me the other day. That hurt. More than anything......... I have gotten two calls from teachers that he is very disrufftive in class. I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend is the best thing to ever happen to me besides having my two kids. Please help. I don't know what to do. Because of my aneurysm, I am on disability. I don't think as fast as I should. I think that is the problem with my boyfriend. He is very smart and catches my son in lies. Please help me.
2006-09-15 03:04:04 · 9 answers · asked by kelly w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Start disciplining him, dont let him go anywhere. When he gets out of hand call the police on him. Its tuff love. Also, if you would like to find out if he is doing drugs you can take him to the local emergency room to have him tested, buy a home kit at the store, or call the police & they will take him to be tested at the hospital. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 03:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son is going through a lot of changes now. he may be also feeling confused as to what his role in the family is suppose to be. prior to your boyfriend being there, what were your son's main responsibilities? if your boyfriend has taken over some of those things your son may be feeling "uneeded" or "unwanted". drugs are always an escape route that is available, but hopefully he will see that the escape is only temporary and stop using. your boyfriend is really going to be tested during this phase (and you may lose him). tuff love is necessary and i wish you the best. keep loving (and showing your love through your actions) your family. you can also try recording your interactions on video to be used as a tool for working through this stage. good luck.
2006-09-15 03:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by 2nosbutful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay sorry to hear bout the aneurysm my mother (grandma but she rasied me my whole life) had that but suvied it, so i know how hard it is (i hope i am on the same page here on this one could be wrong) bout your son, i am 17 i have been their but i am a youth minister so i never did drugs or anything but my friends did and ihelped them and thier parents thur it.it could be drugs but i would not know i would give him a drug test, you dont even have to tell him tell him its for his liver or something, make it up or better yet its to see can he take a certain type of medicae, if he hates your BF could it be he is afraid he will replace your husband, agin i dont know the details so i cant be sure how old he was and what all happened, (my dada walked out wheh ni was born so it could be same case agin i dont know)i am always late when i am with my friends cause they drive and they are very very scarly drivers could be that.on the job thing , drugs or have you ever though of a Girlfriend or an ex that broke his heart?, on the hiting thing i had tio take down my friend who hit his mom she cryed when i took him down but ihad to he was not him self you need to be very careful.on the calls punish him or better yet tlak to him, tell him yo are going to have a long talk and non one is leaving till this is worked out, i would have yoiur bf their but it might case problems. you bf sounds like a nice guy have him talk to your son man to man.you bf is in the right you need him to help keep your son in linwe and i hope this is worked out and that yopu are in good health with the aneurysm and all, if you need anything feel free to e-mail me i am more than helpful and dont mind helping a stranger. in any case turn to God, he will help yuo through this time of dire need, i hate to ask but does you son go to church.
2006-09-15 03:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by legalboy2_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into the Army ... i had a great time , and your son , if he has the balls for it , will also enjoy it... Its time he grew up ,,at 17 i was in Northern Ireland , then the Falklands / GW1 / GW2 / Bosnia...etc.
I'm now retired ..and I'm only 40 .... i made a fortune in the Army as i went into "other regiments" in the UK and still have dealings with them ...
Your son needs something to make his own ,,, and the Army may be the answer.....
Good luck .
2006-09-15 03:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mayb he resents ur boyfriend or the time tht u spend with the boyfriend. Did u spend more time with ur son before the entry of this boyfriend of urs. Try to spend more time or get him distracted by giving him some important jobs to do around the house, making sure tht he gets the idea tht he's the big man of the house so he should do them.
2006-09-15 03:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by mulry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your brain aneurysm. You should seek family counseling for you and your son. If he strikes you, call the police. Hide the beer.
2006-09-15 03:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like son is victim of peer pressure. all of his friends are pushing him to get in trouble. for some reason, the boyfriend is resented by the son. i think family counseling is in order. don't wait to get started.
2006-09-15 03:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Dr Phil has some article that will help?
http://www.drphil.com/articles/category/4/
2006-09-15 03:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋