Do you have tattoos? Does your man have tatoos? Did you get your tattoo after you were together? Was your man in favor of it? Did he get his after you were together? Were you in favor of it? How can someone introduce their spouse to the idea of letting them get a tattoo?? Any serious stories or help is appreciated.
2006-09-15 03:00:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Do you have tattoos? No.
Does your man have tattoos? Yes, 17.
Did you get your tattoo after you were together? NA
Was your man in favor of it? NA
Did he get his after you were together? 4 of them were after, he had the rest when we met.
Were you in favor of it? Yes.
How can someone introduce their spouse to the idea of letting them get a tattoo?? Let them help in the choosing process.
We've been married 8 years, and he had 13 tattoos when we met. I'm not much into heavy tattooing, but at the time, it wasn't my call on what he did with his body. He got another one while we were dating, so I either had to accept it, or break it off. I chose to accept him because by then, I already cared deeply for him.
A few months after we got married, he wanted another one. We went together to the shop, and he let me pick out a tattoo for him, and the spot to put it on. My only limitations were that it had to be something similar to what he already had done, nothing off the wall. So I found a smaller design, and we decided on the back of his left wrist. I sat in the room to watch the entire process, and the artist explained everything as he did it.
Seeing all the "normal" people come and go from the store, talking to the artists, and seeing how much pleasure my husband gets from a new piece was the final decision maker for me. I set a few rules of my own (no sleeves on arms, legs, or other full body coverage) and ever since, we've agreed what and where to put each one. That way I know he's not coming home with something offensive to me (like a pot leaf) on a place that I don't want to see one (like on his neck). So far, it's worked pretty well for us.
Talk to your wife about what you want, where you want it, and the reasons why you are thinking of one. Take her with you to your local shops. Get her educated, involved, and ask her opinions. While you don't need her permission, you don't want a fight either. So make sure you remind her that it is your body, and ask for what she would mind the least to look at on a daily basis. Don't have the "I'm getting one whether you like it or not" attitude, but instead have the "I would like you to help me pick one so that it means something to both of us, and it's something we will both enjoy" attitude. She will take the hint that this is something serious for you, and maybe be more open to it.
2006-09-15 03:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not married but I've been living with my boyfriend for more that two years.
Our story with tattoos is interesting. I'd always wanted one but I never had the courage to have it done, when I met him, he showed me his two tattoos and after talking about it I decided to get one done, a small Chinese character in the lower left side of my belly. I loved it and the feeling was amazing! After having my first tattoo done, he started talking about getting his third one, and I wanted a second one, so we looked for designs and decided to get the same tattoo, in the same place. It was really funny going to the tattoo artist together and getting a tribal sun in our left ankle. Although I can regret what I did if we ever break up, I think it's almost impossible, we've been through a lot of things together and I will never be afraid of remembering him and our relationship.
2006-09-15 03:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had tattoos before we even met. After we got married he got another big one. Then I got a small one on the top of my foot. He really doesn't like it to much. But he tells me it's my body. I love tattoos on a man. I always said that I would never get one but here I am and I did. lol I like my little tattoo. I got it to where I can show it off and hide it when I want. I love piercings and he is not trying to hear me out on that.
2006-09-15 05:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have tattoos, but my husband has tattoos. My husband's always wanted a tattoo for a long time, before he and I even dated. It wasn't until we went to niagara falls in march, we walked by a tattoo parlor, and I said to my hubby (Fiance at the time) that maybe you can get a tattoo here. He said maybe, he has to find something that he likes. Well, we went to the tattoo parlor and I got my navel pierced, then after that we were looking at tattoos, and I remember him telling me that his friends say that he is a god. so then I showed him this chinese character that says god. so then I said, you can get this one. He still says maybe, I kept on convincing him that, you've always wanted to get a tattoo, and it's a good time to get one since we're in a tattoo parlor, plus this place passed the inspection. so then he said okay, he'll get the tattoo. We went back to niagara again, and it got married there, my husband got 2 more tattoos. The reason why I kept on convincing my husband to get the tattoos is 1. he's always wanted a tattoo or tattoos. 2. he's such a great husband that he always thinks about me first, and himself later. So whatever my husband wants to do, I let him.
2006-09-15 03:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we both have tattoo's, He had one in honor of his brother when we got together, he was at a parlor getting it covered up with another one and I decided that I was going to get one right then since I've always wanted one but I never wanted to go by myself, he was encouraging me to do it I mean we were already there. If someone doesn't want one then there is nothing you can do but if they are just scared just talk to them about it, the process of selection and how it WILL hurt but once your done it's done and there forever. But now we both have two he has one on each bicep and I have one one my ankle (Chinese lettering ie.. pleasure) and one on my shoulder of a Palm tree and moon (like south Carolina's state flag that's where I'm from) and I'm sure I will have another one I just haven't figured out what or where yet. Hope this helps some.
2006-09-15 03:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have 15 tattoos. My husband has at least 3 times that many if not more. We have both gotten several tattoos since we have been together. Of course he is always in favor of me getting more ink... the only time Im not in favor of him getting one is if I can't at the time...lol. All I can say is talk to your spouse and let them know you are interested in getting a tattoo... that you have put a lot of thought into it (which I hope you have) and go from there....
2006-09-15 19:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, my husband had one when I met him it was a small one, and I thought " well it's a small one I can live with that ". 5 years into the marriage he got a medium one and it was appealing and I didn't make a big deal out of it because he put our kids name on it. 2 years later he got a humongous one on his back and decided that I was not going to bother to talk him out of it he's a grown man and he knows what he's doing. The only thing that I was worried about was that the place where he was doing it, that everything was well sterilized and sanitized, but he is happy with his tattoos and I'm happy that he is, I'm not going to say that I wasn't against tattoos but I got more opened minded and now I'm planning on getting a small one myself. Our kids are so in favor of them they see it as art and they're only 8 & 5 so what ever you decide to do, like I said make sure is in a sanitized place and check that everything is sterilized and GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-15 03:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a tattoo. I thought about it but then I saw an old lady with a droopy, saggy one and decided that it wasn't for me. My husband does not have one because he is a whimp when it comes to pain. If I wanted one, I'd start with a small one no one could see and hope the spouse would go a long with it. If the spouse is really really against it, it probably isn't worth the fight.
2006-09-15 03:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither My husband nor I have Tattoos, but we both want one or two ...I want an anklet and he wants a couple upper arm bands...It's never really been the "right time", which is why we have kinda put it off...but we talk about it, that's how we found out that the other one wanted one in the first place.....both of us grew up in staunch Catholic homes and our parents were against Body art, so now that we are on our own we figured through talking to each other something ethnic and tasteful would be nice ....Just talk to your spouse see how they feel about it... You may be surprised....take them to a tattoo parlor just to look at different ones and watch the process.....Good Luck
2006-09-15 03:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and both my husband and I do not have tattoos. I guess we can commit to each other forever but no to artwork on our bodies forever.
I think you can talk to your spouse about what you want to get. Show them pictures and research some clean well established tattoo parlors in your area.
Do you really want to have something permanently inked on your body though! It will be there FOREVER!
2006-09-15 03:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋