are u born gay or it it a choice ?

Answer 1

When I was young and didn't know much, I used to assume it was a choice, maybe influenced by events in their life, especially at early formative stages.

Having learned more about human physiology, I can see that there are a great many factors that might tend to make a person gay. Keep in mind that you can observe an enormous variation of behavior amongst gay men and woman; that suggests to me it is logical to expect a vast array of influences that result in a person "choosing" to be gay; and I use the word "choosing" without bias to physiological disposition.

I want to add; I'm a Christian, though not a church-goer. Yet I am embarrassed by the naive and even aggressive responses form many in these forums assigning their position to God. Statements like "God wouldn't do that", for example. Really? Then explain hermaphrodites.

And where is your compassion? Call yourself a Christian then throw vituperations at someone because their lifestyle offends you? Such people are why I don't go to church any more. My mother has a wonderful phrase for such people; Cafeteria Christians! "Oh, I'll have some of that Grace, and a double helping of Blessings, but hold the Love Thy Neighbor stuff... I don't like that".

Anyway, my thinking is that being gay is part choice, part environment, part biology. A person might be gay for any or all of these reasons, in differing amounts.

Answer 2

I believe that for the most part people are born gay. I think that some people might choose the same sex because of a traumatic event that happened to them from a member of the opposite sex when they were younger. Like a safety net for themselves. I think that you need to be true to yourself and now more than ever being gay is more excepted than it was before. There has always been gay people just that it was hidden more because society treated them badly and still do some places like the government for instance.

Answer 3

This is an interesting question. Some people say that you are born that way, others say it's a choice. I myself think it is a choice that we make in our lives.

I'm not personally. However I try to hate the sin not the person committing it. However on occasion I've been known to be a little judgmental. Yes I'm going to admit that.

If someone chooses that that's there call to make and no one Else's. Have a good day.

Answer 4

Maybe neither....I don't think people are born GENETICALLY pre-disposed to being gay, but rather just as your environment contributes to your personality traits that you have little to no control over, the same goes for your sexual preferences. That DOESN'T MEAN that having gay parents or being around gay people growing up makes you gay, but that certain situations contribute to your preferences. I think everyone has the potential to be attracted to either sex, but it's not necessarily a consious choice.

Answer 5

It's something that your Born with.
I dont see why people hate on Gays so much , it's there life , let them do what they want.

I think God wants us all to be happy no matter what way of life we choose. but then again , i am a open minded person. I dont Buy what all the crazy religious people say ... an i was Born an raised Catholic ... lol ..

Answer 6

ahhh... the old "Nature/Nurture" argument....

I'm afraid scientifically speaking, there is still no evidence to suggest sexual orientation is genetic... doesn't mean you're "not" born with it, but in the absence of any facts in this area, the scientific view is that it's "learnt".... actually in much the same way people develop a taste for certain foods...

We need to be careful what is meant by "learnt" - this does NOT mean we read it in a book for example - this form of "learning" is on the level of "how your brain learns to do things" - your brain had to "learn" how to make your heart operate, for example...

So how do people end up with different sexual orientations? Parental influence? Chemical differences in brain? There could be (and probably are) millions of different factors that affect this choice... however, what is important to accept (which many people struggle with) is that it IS possible to affect this learning - ie, your learnt behaviours do not remain consistent from birth to death - the brain is continually evolving....(well - most people's) so people "can" shift their sexual orientation at different points in their life... it's just that a lot of people don't want to! Ie, I've had friends who have led "straight" relationships and professed to be happy for years, only to then go on to be bisexual later in life....

Answer 7

You are born with your sexuality. The confusing part for most is this. You are raised to be straight. When you get to the age of understanding your sexual desires. That can confuse someone.

Like with myself. I had Playboys for a year. I even had the centerfolds on my wall. I thought very highly of females. However at the same time. I did not have a sexual interest in females. I had an interest in males and did not understand that. However everything came clear to me later on.

Then the REALLY confusing part for myself. I became straight just a few months ago. I thought the female vagina was very gross. I did not want anything to do with a female sexually.

Answer 8

I think it's both. You have to be born with certain feelings, and you have to choose whether you'll act on them or not. My boss acts SO gay sometimes and you swear he is, but he's married and has a daughter. I think he could have chosen to live the gay lifestyle, but he didn't.

Answer 9

Born that way. Several gay people I know told me that there was no way they would have chosen the life of being gay.

Answer 10

my aunty was gay, she tried sex with a guy once and hated it, so yes i believe u are born that way. but when it comes to being bisexual than i think it's by choice.