Love my husband, but I got married very young and I always wanted to have sex with an older guy. Next week I'll be in Paris for Business trip and I met a handosome and sucessfull guy that will be in Paris too (believe or not it is coincidence)....we will meet there, I have no feelings for him, only a strong attraction......he is also married. But I feel terrible for my husband. What can I do?
2006-09-15 02:56:07 · 13 answers · asked by arena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LEAVE THE GUY ALONE. And learn to spell.
2006-09-15 03:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you don't feel terrible enough for your husband, if you're still considering sleeping with this older man. Yes it is infidelity.
Step back, take a breath and ask yourself, are you really willing to risk losing your husband (because you will) for a one nighter.
It does not matter if the older man is handsome and successful, all that matters is this man will be the wedge to destroy your marriage.
Remember other playgrounds may look great, but in the end you'll find out the one in your own backyard is still the best.
2006-09-15 10:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
!st of all that's horriable and would be devistated if my wifey ever felt like you do. 2nd you obviously already talked about it with this other man and planned it, how is that not already cheating? How would u feel if you found out that your husband was set up to meet some lady and sleep with her, even just thinking about it? You would feel betrayed as I'm sure he would as well. Maybe you should take a look and see if your marriage is really what you want. There's no such thing as no feelings when It comes to sex especially women emotions.
2006-09-15 10:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by MexiShortieHubby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the consequences of what may or may not happen in paris could be farreaching. dont do anything you will later regret otherwise you'll be miserable beyond possible imagination.
consider the fact that spiritually you give up a part of yourself to whoever you have sex with and ask yourself if your want your spirit to be in many different and meaningless places or in one very special one.
besides since both you are married, then you might want to consider that if either one of your marriages fall out then the stigma usually belongs to the woman because they dont usually call guys "homewreckers".
good luck
2006-09-15 10:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by xodusj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, one of the things I found most attractive about my wife when we were dating was that she had been with other men and would, after some prying, tell me about it. It always enlivened our sex.
While I cannot say I would want her skulking about behind my back, I can say from experience that when she has been attracted to other men from time to time, I have been entirely comfortable with her having a little recreational sex with them.
I trust her judgment to not be climbing into bed with someone who will give her some vile STD, and after thirty years of marriage I am pretty confident that I am hers and she is mine.
What I would say is, if you value your relationship, be honest with your husband. If you put it to him in the right way, you may find he is more receptive than you think to the idea.
2006-09-15 11:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by willingpawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck. You know what the right thing to do is.
Stay true to your husband. ALWAYS treat him in the manner you would like to be treated. Even when we feel like we have been "wronged" or "cheated" in life, always strive to do what's right. You are better than this. Your husband doesn't deserve this. Temptation is bad things wrapped in a nice package. Remember that. Do not open Pandora's box. Ever.
2006-09-15 10:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think your husband would understand? That and what you would understand if he did. I you don't think that your husband will find out and you can live with hiding what you did then go for it. But just ask on thing before you do anything "Is one night of sex that could be great or bad worth my marriage?"
2006-09-15 10:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUESS WHAT.......YOU'VE ALREADY COMMITTED ADULTERY.......it all starts in the mind. Don't be so stupid and risk your marriage for soem pathetic 3 minute burst of lust. You are a married woman and you need to grow up and start acting like aresponsible woman and wife.
2006-09-15 09:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if your husband has plans to hook up with some hot female while your away ?
Doesn't feel very good...does it ?
2006-09-15 10:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by nature4me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is infidelity and adultery
I think you should forget about it
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-15 09:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋