My girlfriend has a friend whom she believes that I want. I tell her over and over that I dont want her. I would never do that. My girl gets upset even when her friend walks over to speak to me. I have no interest in her. I believe that my girl is threatened because she thinks her friend is pretty. I have no interest in her and i would never do that. This is the only friend that I have regular contact with because we work in a large hospital. They have only known each other about seven months. I sat and talked with her other friends for long periods of time and never said anything that could be misconscrude as sexual or flirting.
2006-09-15 02:44:17 · 15 answers · asked by Topstar01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
give her a kick in the hol e
2006-09-15 02:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your g/f is terribly insecure. I dont think it will matter how many times you tell her, she will always feel insecure and threatened. It's good that you are trying to tell her she's the only one, but there is something in her past thats setting off this reaction, it's not actually you or her friend that's the problem. Sit down and talk to her about thing in her past and see if she can tell you why shes "really" insecure. I know that it's very hard and demanding to be in a relationship with someone that has low self esteem or is easily threatened or both. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 02:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experiences I would say just tell her that you love her and you will prove it to her.
Then, unfortunately you will need to say no more & just stick to her like glue & never even look at the friend again. Time will have to heal the situation so during this time you need to be open & let her see that there could be no time for you to spend with the other girl. Also your personal stuff that you've been hiding from your girlfriend, like cellphone & bills will have to come out of hiding to prove your innocence.
2006-09-15 02:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's insecure. Unfortunately the only good cure of that is time. Until she manages to trust you more, it might do your girlfriends nerves some good if you agree to stay away for a short while, but long term, she needs to realise that, in life, you are going to have good looking female friends or acquantences.
2006-09-15 02:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Chris O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the things you should definitely do is ensure that you are no less affectionate with your girl when her friend is around. If anything be more so. This will give your girl the confidence that that its her you want, though if she's particularly sensitive,she could misconstrue this as you trying to make her friend jealous. Girls huh ?
2006-09-15 02:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was jealous of a friend because she always did better then me with the boys. So with my current husband I was jealous when he had fun with her. He probably thought he was making me feel good bacause he was showing an interest in my friends but I was insanely jealous. No rational explination would of talked me out of it.. I was just lucky I had enough time with him to get under his skin :)
2006-09-15 03:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.your girlfriend might have a low self-image...try to show her that it's her you want by doing small gestures like surprise flowers or candy, something of the sort, be sweet and affectionate, tell her how beautiful she is, and compliment her.try not to get into arguments, and if she over does it, tell her that she will lose you if she goes on with this.a good relationship is based on trust.if she does not trust you, why should you?it's important to discuss your issues all the time, instead of letting them consume you on the inside.be open to eachother.good luck :)
2006-09-15 02:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by vehrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is very insecure and there is a possibility that she's jealous of the girl...As for you, try and have minimal contact with the girl it's not your friend it's hers....just to make her feel more secure.
2006-09-15 02:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is jealous of the rapport you have with her friend. She is also very insecure in your relationship. The problem is hers and until she realizes her jealousy is driving you away there is nothing can be done.
2006-09-15 02:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like her self esteem is very low if she thinks her friend is prettier than she is .. do you look at other girls when with her and make comments just to see how she will react ? i know some guys do that .. and maybe she has seen her friend do something to make your girlfriend think she may be coming on to you .. or maybe try to break you up ??
2006-09-15 02:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, the more she brings it up, the more you'll think about it. Women, hate to say it, can be conniving catty creatures and if your girls radar is up about this one, maybe she needs to say something to her 'friend' and end their relationship, rather than dropping all this on you.
2006-09-15 02:51:02 · answer #11 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋