I had been with my partner for one year, we were engaged for a few months. Out of no where he started being very irritable with me but everytime i asked him what the problem was he told me he loved me he was just stressed out. He then dumped me, saying he had been thinking about it for a while, even though he was telling me he loved me and sleeping with me. When he dumped me he said he did love me but needed to be on his own, and that he knew he would never be with someone as good for him as me. I am so hurt that he would do this to me as we have been through alot together but now i just feel he is a liar.he did say he didnt know if he never wanted to be with me again and everyone thinks he is making a mistake.He says he cannot explain what changed and still wants me to be his friend
2006-09-15 02:42:33 · 14 answers · asked by loulou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks fro the advice guys!!! Everyine i have spoken to thinks he has made a huge mistake even his own family!! We have not spoken now for over a week i am trying to cut all ties but part of me thinks he might come back to me? but then if he doesnt it is like being rejected over and over again. What i dont understand is this change of heart so quickly? and what does he think his life is going to be better alone - a life up the pub and sleeping with random women! I really dont understand why he didnt even think about working it out or why he carried on lying when i had given him the opportunity to talk things through with me. It was him that asked me to marry him and him that asked me to move in with him what on earth was he thinking saying this when in his head he was thinking of breaking up with me!
2006-09-17 23:44:59 · update #1
sometimes people think the grass is grenner on the other side of the fence...and then they realise that it isnt.... let him be a friend but keep the distance
2006-09-15 02:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bob Lee Swagger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes when you are with someone for a long time the spark just goes away. If the relationship was only based on lust and that feeling, there isn't much left when it is gone. A lot of guys mistake that feeling for love. Do yourself a favor and find someone else, even if he comes begging to have you back. If he will leave that easily now, he will do it again. Spare yourself heartache and find someone who deserves you!
2006-09-15 02:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation, and all of the Why? questions are heart-wrenching. I would suggest sitting down with him one last time (if he'll agree to it), being perfectly honest with him about how you feel and challenging him to make your love together work. If he hems and haws at that point, then I'm sorry, but you have to bail and find someone worth your while. Best wishes!
2006-09-15 02:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by rhiannon2797 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...i can't really be sure about this, but if you two are students, then he could've thought he should focus on schoolwork than going out with ANYONE--like there's nothing wrong with you. Or it can be just that he is a big loser and he got bored of you or something...don't get irritated by what i'm saying, because once again i'm not visually seeing what's the problem and is just guessing.
2006-09-15 02:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he felt he moved too quickly and got scared of the commitment of marriage. It sounds like he doesn't have a clue as to what he wants.
I wouldn't lose sleep over it and when he comes crawling back to you I'd turn him away. Otherwise he's just going to take advantage of you.
2006-09-15 02:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, he found someone else and wanted to see if the new girl works out. If he gave you a ring for the engagement, don't return it to him. Sell it instead.
2006-09-15 06:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Steve R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a coward with issues that he needs to resolve before he commits to you - let him have his space and time - you go out & live your life - sometimes a guy will come running back real quick when they realize the gal they dumped has moved on real quick.
2006-09-15 02:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the very 1st guy. Maybe the both of you need time for thinking and planning. maybe he will come to you, do u still love him??
2006-09-15 02:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Doc Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uai moça, sei não.
vai ver que ele não gostava de você.
preocupa não. você ainda vai encontrar alguém que te ame e que irá te fazer muito feliz, tá?!
boa sorte.
i don´t know.
maybe he doens´t loves you.
don´t be worry, you will find a boy that will love you and will make you very happy, ok?
good luck.
2006-09-15 02:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by leckka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let it go. if its real then he'll kome back to u wanting to actually get married and everything...maybe he just needs some time to think and analyze things
2006-09-15 02:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by TJ B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋