If your husband was in jail for 8 and a half years. You have been only married for about 2 years and you have been together for 6 years. You have a child and one on the way, had to sell the house due to not working and move into parents house. You are depressed sometimes due to what is going on with the situation. You get lonely at times and horney. What am a girl to do????
2006-09-15 02:41:29 · 29 answers · asked by chyna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends if he's a good husband and father. Also, if you know that he wasn't trying to hurt anyone when he got arrested, give him a second chance. But if what he did was completely uncalled for and he knew that if would affect you, get a divorce.
2006-09-15 02:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rashanka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being horny is no excuse for anything. How you decided to bring another child into this crazy life I cannot understand. Pretty selfish on your part.
I have a son in prison so I understand more than you think I do. You have 2 choices - either stay in this marriage and all it means, lonely, horny and all. Or divorce and move on and hopefully make better choices next time. You don't even enter into being important at this time. You have children that need the best that you can give them. If that means staying with this man, ok. If not, get off your butt, get an education & job and make it work for them. You created them, now you take care of them and forget about your own selfish needs. You made the decisions that put you where you are now. Go see a doctor as you probably are suffering from depression due to all the problems here. However, again, that does not stop you from doing what you need to do for your kids. Forget your sexual needs, deal with your kids. I'm not sure if husband is still in jail or not, but either way, if he is not helping the situation, then he is hurting it. You must now make the decisions that will best help your children.
2006-09-15 09:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... big question is have you already been messing around on him or is it his child? If you are able to, get yourself a job and take care of your child and child in the oven. If you think you can hold off for the 8 1/2 yrs he is in jail stay with him. If you don't think it will work out, you need to move on and get a man that isn't gonna end up in jail for that long. About the horny situation, as others have said, get a dildo or drop the husband and find yourself someone to make love to.
2006-09-15 09:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by theodore.story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your inside tell you to do??? Since it a marriage & Divorce question you probably want OUT....if you want a divorse get One...the law is on your side.
I am a single woman raising two boys...I been down on my luck had to live with my ex's parents....You just keep on keeping on....Find a job, find a place, get some help from the State if you can....and buy youself a vibrator....YOU take care of YOU....if need be get some counseling if you are real depressed.
Maybe, even listen to Joyce Meyers she a precher lady that been through a lot and she teaches on being the Best You.
Darling just by the sheer fact that you are thinking about things and are looking for answers means you want and know you need a change in your life. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-09-15 09:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's been in jail for 8-1/2 years and you have a child on the way? Whose child is it? When will hubby get out of jail? Does he know you are pregnant? Do you still want a relationship with him?
2006-09-15 09:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your sitiuation, if your husband ended up in jail behind a good cause then stick by him thru thick and thin because good deeds will return good blessings eventually, but if it was from some selfish not thinking act then you would do best to move on with your life before you miss your blessing. As for the children I,m sure he loves them, that wont change, if anything you will probably get a blessing from him..
2006-09-15 09:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by hennesseywalton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying with someone while they are in jail or prison is hard! I had a fiance that I was with for 3 years and he was in prison most of the time we were together. In fact he's still there now. I tried for awhile to be faithful, but I couldn't. I too got lonely! It showed me that I wasn't as committed to the relationship as I thought I was! I know it hurt him pretty bad when I did it though! If your not committed to the relationship get out now, let him know before you do something.
2006-09-15 09:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to go out and get a job asap. seeing as you're pregnant and all, it is not exacly the best idea to worry too much as it could affect the baby negatively. if you want to stay married to your husband that's all good and fine but there is no use crying over him because you have bigger problems that need immediate attention such as the family that you have to raise singly. honestly, i feel for you but i think its best to start planning for the future of your kids.
it will not be the easiest thing you especilly for you but in my opinion, its a step in the right direction. as soon as youve conceived and the baby is old enough to stay with someone like your mother or a babysitter, start looking for a job because the fate of your family depends on it.
also there might be some organizations that can help with your problem. i don't know of ant right off the bat but if you search well enough you should be able to find something.
good luck and all the best to you and your family.
2006-09-15 09:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by xodusj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl needs to move on. The child will grow up knowing that daddy was in jail, but hey single parents rock! i know because my mother is a single parent! and if she can take care of 3 children on her own, then anyone can! She is so happy now. Your family is the most important thing and dont loose yourself because of someone elses problems. If he is good to you and if he is coming out of jail soon, then chill and take yourself out for a little, it may change your view of him.
2006-09-15 10:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have to live separate lives for a while. It's hard. Visit as often as you can, work, take care of the kids, and pray a lot. That's really all you can do. Loneliness will feel like it is killing you at times, but you must stay busy. Don't give up on your man or your vows. People will call you crazy but they don't belong in your relationship. Just keep keeping on. Good luck, and take care.
2006-09-15 09:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋