My ex and I are separated and getting a divorce and my ex gives me $400/month support, basically when he feels like giving it to me. I live in Florida our son is 15 yrs old, 6' tall, 200 lbs. He can eat almost $200 in groceries in a week, as we all know groceries aren't cheap. I don't qualify for any food stamps even though I only have $1400 a month in income they say I make too much...that's a crock! I have expenses for my son and no health insurance for myself and my ex has a paid off car but he took mine from me when I left so I have to make car payments ect. I don't even have car insurance right now and if I don't get it soon I will get my license suspended. I know with what my ex makes he can afford to give me more and I will get more when I can afford to file the divorce (he don't want to divorce so he won't pay for it) I think a man should care about his son and the quality of life he lives. I do the best I can but need help, am I wrong to think he should be more helpful?
2006-09-15 02:23:50 · 9 answers · asked by Shae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some more details: its not really that I actually spend $200 a week, its just that some weeks it does get to be that much even just buying ground beef and hot dogs and baloney I still spend about $140, I try to buy economically and I have to say no to my son on alot of stuff, I hate that but I have to my ex rents a three bedroom house (he's the only one who lives there) that he just filled with all brand new furniture, one week I needed money for food and he bought himself a new rug for his foyer and bar stools and told me he didn't have any money to give me, he wants me to beg him for money, one time he told me I could "earn it" by sleeping with him, of course I said NO! He is punishing me for leaving, he was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and his son, he was never there for us and still he is not. I don't know why I expect him to be a decent human being. And I don't feed my son T-bones for breakfast, just eggs or cereal. He's in highschool and its just not cheap!
2006-09-15 02:52:14 · update #1
Also, I need to see a doctor badly...I have a bleeding disorder that makes it so I have to take birth control to keep from bleeding all month long, I can't even go to the doctor, I can't get my pills cause she won't give me a prescription until I come for my yearly visit, my ex just doesn't care, he wants me to go down hill so he can take my son from me, he don't even want our son but he doesn't want to pay child support so he thinks it will be cheaper to take him away from me. I am being punished for leaving. I do have a boyfriend that pays alot of the bills as much as he can, about my ex I think what kind of real man and father is content to let another man support his child, I feel bad that my boyfriend pays for all of this stuff, its good he loves me and my son enough to do it...but not fair to him since he has his own bills too! It makes me feel dependent and we aren't even married, I hate it. My son needs me after school so a second job isn't an option.
2006-09-15 02:56:20 · update #2
Right or wrong, it doesn't put food on the table. You might remind him that, even though you are separated, you can still ruin his credit; since you're still legally married. You can also cut the food bills down drastically by eating cheaper, but filling foods. They may not be as nutritious, but they'll get you by until things get better. And as far as a lawyer goes, some of them will take their proceeds out of the divorce settlement, or do it for free.
2006-09-15 02:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check other options for the health maybe there's a health center that sees people on a sliding scale, for food talk to him about a paper route or something he's old enough the ex sounds like an *** but if he wasn't there for you 2 in the marriage what makes you think he will be now my ex is the same way i get by with out him and my kids 6 and rents a ***** but i'm getting by because i wasn't going to let some guy do me in
2006-09-15 03:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for divorce with a kit in FL is cost about $75. Then the state sets his child support and he MUST pay it or go to jail. In the state of FL the child must be "kept as close as possible to the financial situation they were in before the divorce. I went through this with my EX, and I live in FL too, my youngest is 13 yrs old and 6' as well. They eat ALOT
2006-09-15 02:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by MandaSue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't wrong. He should be more helpful. Raising children is a hard and expensive job. I raise my twins without any help from their father and it is not easy. Maybe you could have th court adjust his child support payments to help with the rising costs of groceries. Just a suggestion. I hope you get some relief soon.
2006-09-15 02:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by twinboys92403 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong, he should indeed help out more.have you tried talking to him about it?if you do talk, then try to be calm, do not yell or anything.talk to him as if he were a friend, because if you get into an argue you won't solve anything.be wise.let him see you as the mother of his child, not as an ex-wife.also, if things don't work out, you might try getting a second job...or get a loan from someone to help get you atrted, pay your car insurance, so you won't have any more problems in the near future.take care, and good luck :)
2006-09-15 02:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by vehrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is one of the lowest kinds of human beings. Call your local legal aid and see what they can do for you. Call every lawyer in town and try to find someone who will be sympathetic and take payments. And some do, believe it or not. Anyway, the law is on your side in this matter, pursue it aggressively. It is in YOUR power to STOP being a VICTIM!
Then take your ex to the cleaners and get it all, hurt him where it counts.
And don't listen to the idiot above me...........he obviously has never had to feed a teenage boy!
2006-09-15 02:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not ! doesn't matter what he makes or what the courts say !
A REAL Father will provide ....as much as he can afford !
Good Luck to you and your Son .
2006-09-15 02:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by nature4me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....if your son eats 200.00 a week in groceries, stop giving him T-bones for breakfast. I can feed a family of 3 for 200.00 a week and still eat VERY well.
2006-09-15 02:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes he should be more helpful, it is hard this day and age trying to live in this world on your own.....
2006-09-15 02:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋