2006-09-15 02:14:16 · 52 answers · asked by katrina_ponti 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Our love.
The foundation of marriage is true love. In love, loving and filled with love eternal. Pure, unconditional love. Absolute and unfettered.
Through love -- heart to heart -- comes passionate devotion to the joyous union. It is all that matters, and lovers gladly give their all in sweet surrender and together form that most perfect union, two hearts that beats as one.
Through love, and passionate devotion comes absolute dedication, and tireless perseverance, with both constantly learning and growing together, deepening and building on their bond.
Love guides them as they travel through life together, make a home, raise a family, live many long years together, grow old together always loving more and more.
All obstacles will fall before them, their love will carry them through the most trying of times, and they will always emerge from any trial yet deeper in love, stronger and wiser.
They will forever be guided by their hearts, and they will learn from their love how to live in love, and they will fill their home with love, have happy children who will know love, and their days will be many, and they will value each and every one, for they love and cherish all and always.
2006-09-15 06:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bender 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What makes a marriage work is two people giving 100% of everything they have to engage in a happy relationship! The old saying, " It's better to give than recieve," applies on an everyday basis! Treating your other half the way you want to be treated, and lending an ear when the other needs to express how he/she feels, giving advice when needed, and trying to understand each other completely! Trust is the #1 factor! Without trust, you will never have a marriage!
2006-09-15 02:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When God is in the center of it all and both partners fix their eyes on Him - choosing to make Him happy. For instance, how would God want me to handle this situation with my husband or wife?
A spouse needs to be willing to compromise and communicate effectively as well. This means talking the way the other person understands, ask questions so there is no confusion, and always maintain eye contact - look like you are interested. Be attentive. Put the other person before self - don't be selfish! And don't ever be harsh. Think before you act or speak. Respect the other person's thoughts and ideas even if you think it is bogus. Love the person as you would love yourself. If you are hungry, you would feed yourself and if you needed to use the bathroom, you would use it, right? You obviously know how to take care of your own needs. Now take care of the other person's needs. Try to see things from the other person's perspective. Encourage the other person, be their biggest cheerleader. Don't lie, don't lie, and don't lie. Don't keep secrets and be as honest as possible. Pray and pray a lot - by yourself as well as a couple. Don't ridicule, no sarcasm if you can help it - they may be taken seriously accidentally, don't tear down the other person, don't remind them of their flaws, faults, or their past. Don't nag. Lastly, always hold a positive attitude and smile often. They are contagious.
No one said marriage was going to be easy.
2006-09-15 02:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a question. I think you probably know that what works for some, wont work for others. But I think you need total honesty and respect. If you have that you have something to build on. I must not have known what works cause, I am divorced. But I have the greatest gift in the world from that marriage, my son lives with me.
2006-09-15 02:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by been_there_done_it 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Luck. People can get into arguments over freak occurances and random things.
And you could also just get tired of seeing the same person everyday, so I would also say that some time apart makes a marriage last.
2006-09-17 13:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GUESS IF WE KNEW THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION THAN THE DIVORCE RATE ACROSS THE US WOULDN'T BE OVER 50%....LOL...ANYWAY, I AM SURE THAT YOU WANT A SERIOUS ANSWER SO I WILL TRY TO HELP. I THINK IN ORDER FOR IT TO WORK THE COUPLE SHOULD DATE PLENTLY LONG ENOUGH TO KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT THAT IS THERE SOUL MATE. THEN YOU HAVE TO TRY AND BE FINANCIALLY STABLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (IF AT ALL POSSIBLE, I KNOW SOMETIMES IT IS NOT). BUT MONEY CAN BE A HUGE ISSUE COUPLES FIGHT OVER. THEN YOU SHOULD WAIT A SUFFICIENT AMOUNT OF TIME FOR YOURSELVES TO START A FAMILY. AND THEN YOU JUST BASICALLY HAVE TO LEARN TO COMPROMISE WITH EACH OTHER, AND TRY AND REMEMBER TO NOT TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED. ALSO, GOD AND CHURCH PLAY A BIG PART IN IT. A MARRIAGE WITHOUT GOD IS BASICALLY DOOMED. I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU SOME. IT SOUNDS EASY TO SAY, DOING IT IS THE HARD PART....LOL
2006-09-15 02:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Brown_Eyed_Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost keeping God the center of the marriage. Alot of love, forgiveness and patience. If you keep it 50/50 it will be very tough. But, if you learn to give 75% and take 50% it makes life that much easier.
2006-09-15 02:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only marrying for true love! If you have married for any other reason, even 'work' may not be enough to hold the marriage together. I have met my true love and I will gladly do all I can daily to see him happy in every way. :)
2006-09-16 13:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sugarapples 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Do everything for your spouse, to make them happy, satisfied, honored & loved no matter what they do in return; even if they do nothing or only half as much as you.
2. Try to fulfill the desires and needs of your partner, because in doing so you are really taking care of yourself.
3. Making them happy, brings happiness into your life. Make them satisfied and they will be satisfying to you. Look for everything in their life that has a need and in doing so; you are technically also taking care of your own self.
4. Look at that statement; "Two becoming one flesh"... If taking care of yourself first starts with taking care of your spouse then doing this will make your marriage perfect.
5. If all you seek for in your relationship is what will satisfy me, it will fail. Givers ALWAYS get. TAKERS always become deprived, because in trying to satisfy themselves the whole time their spouse dies...
6. Now look to the need of others first and in doing so your needs will be met.
Tips
Believe it or not; making yourself second in the relationship makes you first in the heart.
Warnings
Selfishness destroys all relationships.
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Perfect-Marriage
2006-09-15 02:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow,,, in 19 minutes you have a wide variety of answers totalling 42. As you can see my dear there are a million different opinions about this but. Afew are on the mark. And afew are obviously in for or in a challenging relationtionship if they think sex is the major point. Tried that approach, have the t-shirt to prove it so to speak. You have a pretty good idea all ready, I`m certain of that. But I`ll add my thoughts as well.
It`s not about me! It`s about We !. It`s a life long journey at times denying self for the betterment of my significant other. If I knew back then what I know today I truly would have been able to avoid 2 divorces 20 years ago. You see I was driven like so many for the sexual live in partner and was in no way prepared for a relationship requiring undestanding, respect, Love, Communication, financial security etc.
I have found however through lifes experiences that if I stop focusing on myself and focus on my wife she will be satisfied, loved, secure and able to reciprocate with ease and meet all of the needs I have without my ever having to be concerned about my appetites. It`s a win win relationship. And when I factored in the Lord, and became a leader in the Christain realm it even became more clear to me that as I gave Him first place in our lives , He opened every avenue in our lives to new realms of understanding. Christ first, Family second, and Job/finances third and we begin to operate as we have been designed to in fullness of being. Do problems come , oh yes,,, but they are more easily over come with this foundation in place,
Respect, admiration, communication, trust. etc these things will provide a spring board for a relationship that will weather even the toughest of trials. My oldest son Jim Jr Moved to Heaven March 02,2002 due to an auto accident. If thses things had not been in place in my marriage I can assure you I would be involved in yet another divorce.
Jim
2006-09-15 02:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋