2006-09-15 02:07:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sticky situation if you tell her it will hurt her and she may not believe you and on the other hand if you don't tell her and later on she finds out you knew she will also be hurt. I would not tell her but lead her into finding out herself i.e. taking her out on a night he is out and see if you find him anywhere up to his tricks. This could of course be a one off, a drunken snog, something he will regret, so you should air on the side of caution.
2006-09-15 02:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't tell the husband b/c then he has time to make up lies and get her away from you. I would take her somewhere private and then just break it to her. Don't tell her like you told us, be more selective with the words you use. Be there for her afterwards, she's going to need a good friend. Good luck!
2006-09-15 02:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you were leaving and got a glimpse of the two of them in the club say "oh I saw you guys at the club the other night, did you have fun?". And she'll say "I wasn't there" and you'll say "well I was already out the door but I saw your husband's face and the back of your head, weren't you there?" And she'll still say she wasn't there and then be like "oh woops, I guess you weren't. sorry"
2006-09-15 02:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how close you are with her... and who she trusts the most, she may accuse you of splitting her and her hubby up, because most likely her husbands going to deny this once she confronts him, so she is going to be sooooo confused, you need to think hard about this, and whether it is your place to tell her something like this, and will she believe you or think that your being dishonest.... you need to make her see for herself that her husband is cheating.. maybe by setting him up?? if you see her husband doing this again, why dont you get solid evidence, therefore she cant accuse you of lying... good luck..
2006-09-15 02:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say i was at a club and there was a man that looked so much like your husband there but surely it wasn't . lame uh theres no tack full way to work it into the conversation . its like do i tell or don't i . i say it all depends on the friend is she a good friend ? i am thankfull i don't go out at night and see mine . i would go by how good of friend tho
2006-09-15 02:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont. It might just have been a drunken kiss that he is probably regretting.By you telling her she will be extremely upset and could have a detrimental impact on her marriage and an adverse effect on your friendship. Are you willing to risk that.As a friend a good friend you are supposed to protect her.I would think seriously if I were you.It might be nothing.
2006-09-15 07:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by dollybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tricky one, this one!!!
I had idea my ex husbands friend was cheating on his wife who's my friend. My ex use to come home and tell me things about them but whenever i asked my ex anything he denied it was still happening! I didnt tell her anything until her husband left her and she was beating herself up thinking it was all her fault. Apparantly, everyone she told about the affair had an idea what was happening but no one told her!
The decision you have to make is would she beleive you or would it destroy your friendship?
You might be best talking to her husband, tell him what you saw and that you dont really want to tell his wife but will do if it happens again!
It really depends on how close you are to your friend.
Good luck
2006-09-15 02:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mizz Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the guy first and tell him what you saw and make sure he understands that if you ever see him doing it again you will tell her and make him see what he has to lose if she finds out about him. You gotta be careful cos you dont want to lose a friend if you tell her now and she believes him over you. its a hard dilema but hope this will help.
2006-09-15 04:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't... Do you know they used to kill messengers that brought bad news?
What you seen may not actually be what you thought.
She might already know and by telling her you are embarassing her and forcing her to do what she doesn't want to do in which case she will end up hating you.
It really isn't any of your business.
You might want to examine your own motives for wanting to carry this bit of gossip to her. Would you be getting a wee bit of pleasure out of it? Be honest!
My advice? Let it go.
2006-09-15 02:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could have been a one off, he may have been drunk...not that either of those excuses his actions. If you are very close to them both have a word with him first? Maybe the idea that he was seen will scare him off that scene again? You can ascertain it yourself if he is smugly pleased with himself...
Don't risk losing a friend cos of a man!
2006-09-15 02:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by theoldecrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋