about husbands cell phone?

Question

ok i have been married for 5 yrs and we have split up a couple of times but thats a long story anyway he has a cell phone and he will not let me even look at it or touch it, when he goes to the corner store he takes it with him and turns it off at night. last night i went to charge it for him and he's like no i will do it myself. about 3yrs ago he had a cell phone and there was a girl that called him and he went to meet her. the? is what should i do? should i leave him or what? no smart a - - pls. in a way i dont trust him but in a way i do it's kind of 50 50

ps we have a 2yr old son
we have been with each other for 6yrs

Answer 1

looks like your gonna have to catch him in the act...your going to have to outsmart him...if it is 50/50 on the trust issue...it is not your fault he has cheated before...but it is your fault if you allow yourself and your child to think this is normal and appropriate behavior...you have a son who is taking notes on how to be a man, how to be a husband and a father...now...isn't your son going to treat his wife as he sees his father treat his mother?
Isn't your son going to do as his father does? These questions
are easy to answer...you either give your husband an ultimatum to get Christan Counseling and do all you can to save your marriage or get ready for a nasty thing called a divorce. He has cheated...another word for it is adultery...for this you can file for a divorce...even porn is adultery says Dr. Phill. God bless I do hope you can save your marriage not just for your son's sake, but also for Marriage is a wonderful Job God has given you...and I do pray that your marriage will be saved! You must take action you have a responsibility to your marriage as you do your son!

Answer 2

Try to obtain a copy or original of the cell phone bill.

I took several bills and typed all the calls, in full detail from the bills, on to an Excel spread sheet. I sorted them a few different ways.
Many hours to do that.
I found those that I knew and a few that were only one or two duplications and discarded those.

BUT, the calls and returns, the long conversations, multiple calls back and forth on the same day, etc,etc,etc.

Cell numbers are difficult to trace, but I found a few, men within a few miles and local.

She was a Realtor. Even clients don't repeat that often or have long conversations, all men, where I was able to trace.

THEN, I learned that she "forwarded" her office phone to her cell phone. SO, anytime I called her after work, on either number, I reached her. Right? While she was working overtime?

I could have hired a detective, but I was afraid to find the truth. I had hoped that I was wrong during that time.
I finally found the truth.
4 years now and it still hurts.

There will never be another. Two wives died young.
No trust left. They'll die or find another.

Answer 3

My husband has a cell phone to and he leaves it lying around all the time. If I pick it up and look at his numbers or messages he won't even look up to see what I'm doing. His phone is always on. Basically, your gut instincts are right and your husband is not trustworthy. Talk to him about this and tell him you want 100% trust in your relationship and that you would like him to start working on this with you. Your concern over his cell phone is a perfect opening. Relationships take work and if you talk and become closer maybe you can solve the underlying problems in your relationship and get to the bottom of why he feels the need to have secrecy. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

If you can't trust him then why be with him. I am sorry but trust is very important in a marriage. In my marriage if I didn't trust my husband I wouldn't be with him. Of course if my husband went to meet another woman, then I would have left him, but that's me. I have been in a relationship where I was cheated on. I said I forgave him but I never forgot. Everytime he was late coming home or acting weird automatically my mind would tell me he was cheating. I was misreable! I was never unable to let it go so the relationship didn't last. That's why I have to trust my husband or I have nothing. It sounds suspisious that he won't let you touch his phone, it seems secretive. Hell I answer my husbands, he doesn't care. We don't hide things from each other! You might want to step back and look at the situation. Do you want to constantly be wondering if he's doing something wrong? If you don't have trust, what do you have??

Answer 5

If he has a phone he won't let you touch.. and he takes it with him to the corner store.. and he is acting all weird.. he is a cheater.

A friend of mine is going through this right now, and I have to tell you - that his wife was never like that till a couple of months ago. Now she hides her phone. Shuts off the ringer when they are at home, and when he is with her. Shuts the phone off at night. Deletes the numbers of people that have called, and it is really weird. They just got married less than a year ago, and just last week she admitted she was having an affair. I told him she probably was months ago.... but he refused to believe it.

What reason has he given you - that you can not use his phone or even look at it?

HE IS A CHEATING LOOSER. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN.

Answer 6

If you look for something, sometimes you may find something. But what if it is not what it seems? I don't allow my friends to view my phone as well. Reasons: 1-- It shows a lack of trust (I don't look at their phone as well). 2-- I was in school with female and required we talk (what if she calls trying to play detective and an assuming mate thought it was something going on and does bodily harm to the female or your man. Is it worth it?) 3--He just may have a friend of the opp. sex that is just that, but knows that you well not understand. You should just not push the point or leave and except the fact that you may have end the union with out concrete proof. good luck---think about it

Answer 7

I sort of put love and trust in the same box...

It could be he doesn't trust you and he's fooling around on the side.

It could be he doesn't trust you because you were caught snooping once before.

For some people, their phone is their life...

I think if you don't trust your husband over phone contacts...it's time to pack up and leave.

In either case you need something to swing the scale over that 50 mark...get you closer to 55 / 45 and your life will improve.

Good luck

Answer 8

i imagine you want to take a seat your husband down and tell him you made a mistake and this is going to under no circumstances ensue again, no doubt he will ask or call for to entice close what you probably did. in basic terms tell him you regarded at his deepest images and video in his cellular telephone. If he's a 1/2 way wise human he will already recognize what you said, if he's having a cowardly second he will ask you what you said.... tell him an same way you informed us. There no need in having an difficulty about it yet enable him recognize the way you sense. open as a lot as him about being upset in your self and do not recognize what to sense about him having the stuff in his telephone. tell him you sense you would possibly want to be open to him about your sexual existence with him, and that you do comprehend interest yet he needs to allow you to recognize the video isn't something he intends on continuing with. reality is (no count number what you or your solutions might want to imagine) he might want to ok have downloaded the video, so it fairly would not make any distinction how they were given there. The underlying difficulty is that you would possibly want to favor the video wasn't on his telephone. i imagine you would possibly want to be prepared for him to advance a touch anger which will in basic terms be a effect of you looking the flicks, even as he might want to accuse you of prying into his deepest stuff yet you recognize what: he's married and the personal stuff is meant to be shared..... sturdy success and carry in there.

Answer 9

If you really have to know what is on his phone then just wait until he is asleep and go look at it. If you have suspicions that he is cheating again, then the sooner you look at it the better for your sons sake. You don't want him to grow up thinking that a relationship like this is the right way to do things!!!

Answer 10

Obviously he does not want you to nose into his phone because he has skeletons to hide in his closet. But the fact that he is not doing anything right in your face, shows he has some love and respect for your person. Do not do anything drastic. Let him be. Show him love and faithfulness like you have always done. If he gets more satisfaction from what he has at home, he might let go of his distractions.