I found he was cheatin on me at 7 months pregnant. we been battling back and forth for the past 2 months. im 35 wks today. he even started a relationship with the girl he was cheatin on me with but for some reason they arent together anymore. now he wants to make things right between us. how should i handle this?
2006-09-15 02:02:03 · 17 answers · asked by foxzie006 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Acourse im skeptical of his true motives towards being with me but not skeptical of his motives for trying to be with his son.
2006-09-15 02:08:49 · update #1
no one but you know what is right. But if it was me, I would tell him to bugger off.
2006-09-15 02:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bryn H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for a LONG time, you should have him in your life as a friend and as a father for your child. Your child deserves to have a relationship with his father. You two should at least be polite to one another in front of your child. If over the course of a long friendship (a year would be good!) with him, he proves himself and is trustworthy, then I would begin a relationship with him again and see how it goes. If he is impatient with that and does not want to wait and work on it, then he's SO not worth it honey and find yourself a better man! But always allow your child to have his father!
2006-09-15 10:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. Get rid of him and focus on yourself and your baby.
A very good friend of mine who had a cheating husband (they're now divorced, and have been for years) told me something a long time ago regarding cheaters: It's always hardest the first time... Meaning, they will do it again and again because it becomes a *little* easier every time.
Hope and pray that he didn't contract an STD (God forbid a potentially fatal one) and spread it to your unborn baby as well. You might have gotten lucky this time, but next time you might not be...
2006-09-15 10:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated once he'll cheat again more than likely. Besides that he's already broken your trust. Do you really want to wonder where he is and who he's with all the time. Because you will knowing what you know about him. If it were me I'd tell him that he could be in the childs life but not mine. I wouldn't take him back but if wants to be there for the baby let him.
2006-09-15 10:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by dixiefrogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing you need to do is put yourself aside and ask your self if you want this baby to be in the middle of this "so called realationship you and the father has" i waz born in the south and the family way there is if he's gotta cheat well then he does not deserve you. how do you know he is for sure now? you need some one that will love you for you and your baby it comes in a package both or nothing. you and your baby are way more important than the way your are gettin treated now. think of your baby first not yourself. good luck and best wishes for you and your baby. is it a boy or lil girl?
2006-09-15 09:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by SAD IN ILLINOIS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying it is impossible to change. However, if you are skeptical about his motives I would proced with great care. This man may feel he can make amends and allow a great role in his child's life if you are happy with him. I can only say take your time and be sure to make sure this is what you really want.
2006-09-15 09:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Erin S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have lost trust and respect for this man, which of course he has earned, and deserved to lose it, but if you honestly don't believe in your heart that you wouldn't be able to give him trust or respect again, you need to end the relationship. He will always of course be a part of your life, because that is his child also, but you don't deserve what he has done to you, and your child. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 09:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by jenniklog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you rally want to deal with this
if you think that you can trust him again (which I douth) give it a try but don't think you need to get back with him because of the baby, financially he'll have totake care of his child, so it is left for you to see if their is reason why you should get back with him
Good Luck
2006-09-15 09:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a hard decision to make...you can try to take him back...maybe he really is sorry. Or you can tell him to pound sand...My hubby cheated on me early in our relationship...I battle with it all the time (he enede up getting her pregnant on a onenight stand) So it is taking me a while to trust him again. Its hard...but if you are willing to at least try to forgive him and try to trust him again go for it...After the baby is born maybe you can look into going for counselling together (it really helps)
2006-09-15 13:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay well clear of any relationships with him however the child should not suffer so therefore the only reason u should c him is so that he can b a father to your child
2006-09-15 09:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Hazel t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back because he is free, maybe he got dumped and is on the rebound....if you take him back, do it for the right reasons. If he cheat once, he will do it again. Have a relationship (not intimate) for the child's sake and move on.
2006-09-15 09:22:35 · answer #11 · answered by Deleted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋