Is it wrong of me to tell my 5yr old that if someone hits her in the playground, to hit them back?

Answer 1

Nope not at all.

Answer 2

Why is the other kid hitting your child in the first place? I am guessing they are a bully and for no apparent reason.

At some stage there has to be retaliation.

After having exhausted all reasonable avenues, telling the teacher, asking them to stop etc... of course hit them back. Make sure your kid knows how to punch properly though. Even a small kid can really hurt a bigger kid if they punch properly - at that stage they don't come back for more it's not worth their while!

Answer 3

I totally agree with you because that seems to be the only way to stop a bully. However, in most public schools today, your 5 year old will get in just as much trouble for hitting back as the hitter will. So unfair.

Answer 4

I don't believe in hitting. I think it only teaches and encourages more hitting. I think your child should use his words and let the teachers know. You can also get involved with the situation. Sometimes we don't even know why the other child is hitting. Maybe he just wants attention that he doesn't get from home. Take the two kids out for pizza and ice cream. You never know what could happen.

Answer 5

When my daughter was in Kindergarten she had issues with this other child. We had always told her hitting is wrong but after seeing her come home in tears too many times we let her know it was ok to stand up for herself. As long as you explain that your child should not be the one to start the fight it is perfectly fine to defend herself.

Answer 6

no i have children too and i tell them all that if someone hits you you hit them back, you are not making a bully or teaching your kids how to fight, they are just protecting themselves, you don't want nobody hitting on your child everyday your child gets pounce on, so you are doing the right thing i say the same thing.

Answer 7

i would never encourage my kids to be a bullie but i have always told them if someone hits u u hit them back, i was bullied in high school and it stemmed from primary school and i never want my kids to go through that . so i think it's ok so long as u explain to yr child that it's never ok to be the bullie and it's only ok when protecting themselves.

Answer 8

Momma always told us, never ever start a fight, but if someone hits you, you finish it.... Momma always looked at it like this.....Wether you start or finish a fight, both kids are going to be suspended, or put in time out, or In school suspension.... so dont let someone pick on your child wether hitting them or calling them names....... I have a brother that is in 7th grade, but when he went into 6th grade all the 8th graders was picking on him, and it took all I had not to go to the school and say something to them kids, because I couldnt stand to see him upset, but I let him handle it himself, but he seems to be doing ok....

Answer 9

No they have to learn how to protect themselves, i tell my 3 year old to hit them back if she gets hit.

Answer 10

That's what I tell my 4 yo daughter to do. She got a cousin who likes to hit so my family told her to hit back and don't let the boy bully her. But we also cautioned her not to start the fight. However, we also told her to tell the boy's grandmother if the boy hit her so she don't have to defend herself everytime. Luckily, the grandmother also corrects the boy. If the boy call my daughter name, my son is likely to defend his sister and tells the boy off.
I don't let even my son hit the sister, so I make sure her playmates caregiver also knows it.

Answer 11

I would say it is wrong to, i have a 5 yr old cousin and i know that he would take it too literally. So i guess in a way its kinda how your own child would take what you had said