Some men feel it is degrading to go down on a woman, for her to go down on him it is fine but not for him. second, some women also feel that if she can get her man to lick her down there, he loses his respect in front of her..especially if he licks her liquid too, and when they return to their senses (meaning come to real life) she would look down upon him ... how true is this ? and what are your opinions regarding "going down on a woman" and what these people feel about it?
2006-09-15 01:51:22 · 15 answers · asked by scary 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I reported you. Vulgar. Common.
2006-09-15 01:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is possible that i live in a very different culture than you, so i am answering from a personal cultural perspective ^_~
Communicating about sex is very important, and I feel very comfortable asking about sex, bodies, health, and sensation preferences etc.
I don't see the body as being a dirty thing, and i don't see sex as being a dirty thing. I feel that my creator gave me a beautiful body with healthy sensations.
For me, lovemaking is not just intercourse, it can begin with a caress, and it doesn't necessarily have to go any farther to be validated as lovemaking. Orgasm is not a destination to me, lovemaking is the journey and orgasm is one of the possible sensations.
All parts of the body are equally important to me and my significant other, whether they are albows, eyes, hands, vagina's, penises, nipples, tummies, etc. And the body is full of lovely sensations that we are allowed to explore. whether with our voices, our eyes, our hands, or any other part of ourselves that the other feels comfortable being touched by.
As humans, we are made of electrons, neutrons, protons, etc then cells, then tissues, then organs. If you put us under the microscope, all parts of us break down into the same components. So, if i am comfortable kissing my lover's lips, i feel comfortable kissing other parts of my lover's body as well so long as i am invited to.
Ideas about the body, about the sensations a body is allowed to experience, or where bodies are allowed to experience sensations or how...these change depending on culture, and time. Even cultural ideas about bodies and sexuality changes over time. History is reflected through the scope that ones current cultural timeline see's it, so things may appear as if they have always been the same. They have been changing, i assure you ^_~ Also, humans are not carbon copy cut outs, and neither is human sexuality. There is variation for every person, in what they find acceptable and/or pleasurable.
My best thoughts to you ^_^
2006-09-15 08:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't speak for everyone on this one but in my opinion, I think "going down" on a woman or man is completly natural and ok. I don't see why some people would think that women lose respect for their man or vice versa, if anything, they should respect him/her more for doing something that they enjoy.
If people don't like doing it, it's always their choice not to do so and to never be forced to do it. Some people enjoy doing oral sex and some don't, but there's no right or wrong about it. Everyone has their own idea of what is wrong, but in this case, I don't think it's wrong at all.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-15 01:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Minouners 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My opinion: If a guy goes down on a woman it shows that they are willing to do anything it takes to give her pleasure. I don't think anyone loses any respect after having oral sex. You should know what your partner likes before doing anything and if your partner is into it, you don't have to worry about respect.
2006-09-15 05:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by ray ray 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have only ever heard the opposite. Men are considered unmanly if they don't because only a real man could.
Meanwhile, anyone going down on a man automatically becomes a c*cks*cker. In case you missed it somehow, c*ck s*cker is not the most flattering thing you can call someone. I know of a large population that only go to prostitutes for "that".
2006-09-15 01:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If people 'lose respect' or 'feel dirty', it sounds like they are sexually repressed. Probably something instilled by religion - they need to let that go! Or find a partner with the same hang-ups so they can avoid anything 'icky' to their psyche.
2006-09-15 01:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree...personal preference and love is love...sex is sex...silly to bring in religion, morals, and ect. If you enjoy what is being done to you/you doing to them then YEAH! It is an act of showing/feeling physically a connection with someone you love/care for. Good luck!
2006-09-15 02:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love him down there, hate going down on him - lol.
No issue about respect and stuff man, its all about personal preferance and enjoyment.
2006-09-15 01:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wish my husband would. He thinks it's gross. I would rather lick a vagina than suck a di*k anyday! I don't think it's at all degrading. I think it's prolly one of the nicest things you can do for your woman!
2006-09-15 01:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by DnBprincess850 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It all depends on what society you were brought up in.
A person's medicine maybe poison to another.
And to that narrow minded bloke, what is there to report on such a question.
2006-09-15 02:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by davmanx 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i also had this experience before you cannot always hide it you must face realistic what have you done is done if you love the woman so much ask for a marry :)
2006-09-15 01:58:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋