Well 2morrow im getting married to the man of my dreams.Both of us are virgins and we have reserved sex for a day like 2morrow at our honeymoon.The big is I dont even know wat to do how to have sex.In 20 and he is 23.I have been so excited about this day but Im becoming so nervous.Plis help!!! We are counting hours.....
2006-09-15 01:37:43 · 20 answers · asked by laura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Congradulations Laura,
You have accomplished what very few of us have only dreamt of but failed to do. I applaude you both. Trust me dear, because you have saved this magical moment you will be blessed in more ways than one throughout the life of your marriage. No, what if I compare up to`s,,, or I wonder if`s,,,,, or shared memories of another! None of that garbage to carry into this union as you become one together.(How Awespome that will be)
My suggestion is simply refuse to feel inadequate (if that should slip into your mind), trust in yourself and your inner beauty that this man has been so longing to partake of. Be sure to take along some KY Jelly lubricant, and because this is going to be a journey of exploration together you may want to take a tube or two of warming lotions that gently warm up the skin as you massage each other. Dont worry you can not possibly wear out your sexual opening, it may feel like it but its impossible to do. thats why the lubricant is eccential. You can bruise down there so pace yourselves. I would do this as foreplay and explore for a while, this will build the stimulazation to a frenzy if you take your time not to rush into the actual act it`s self. Only you know your trigger points of sensation so guide him into those areas. Low light is good for mood, and perhaps some SADE or your choise of music low in volume in the back ground. Position will very important as you move into the actual act. You have more control being on top, this may be away of being able to control the depth etc yourself, on bottom you will have a hard time controlling his eagerness I assure you. As you settle in from stretching and coming to a fairly comfortable experience then roll over and let him drive. It`s all about working towards the climax together or atleast close in timing. Dont be upset if you dont explode the first time, you might, but you may also be more concerned with not feeling real comfortable the first time or two but all gets better with practice, (I Promise You) A toy isnt a bad idea, vibrator. This will be fun for both of you as he experiments on your body getting to know those trigger points. And if he accidentally leaves you behind it can also help you reach your desired destination as well. I trust that you will find balance and be fully satisfied physically as well as emotionally and spiritually. Keep The Lord first, Family second and job third and you will find life will be good. Trials obviously will come but through those guide lines you will make it together.
Hugs,
Jim
P.S. I`f possible give an update after the honey moon. I dont mean all the details just the general exerience emotionally. Were your expectations met. etc
P.S.S. I hope this hasnt been TMI (to much Info) but its kind of difficult to answer the question any other way. Take care my dear
P.S.S.S. Last but not least this whole marriage union as you will find revolves around your being focused on the other not focused on yourself. This will apply in every facet of the marriage and yes in bed as well. Balance and understanding. Meet his needs and he will be more than happy to bend over backwards to meet yours as well, but balance is critical, Now I`ll shut up.:-)
2006-09-15 02:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well there's always a 1st time 4 every thing...Even 4 sex...All i can say is that when u actually do it....Just keep up the pace with ur partner 4 the satisfaction of u & ur partner...It might b difficult in the beginning but u'll get the catch of it in a while.....Congrats & Good Luck 4 ur new life Together......
2006-09-15 01:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by Drift King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he say why he was not comfortable with the idea? My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. As Christians we decided as part of dedicating our marriage to God, we would wait 3 days after our wedding day to be intimate for the 1st time (symbolic of Christ being in the grave for 3 days). But that was like fasting -- giving up something you want. He wanted to make love with me!! I think that the question is why he doesn't feel comfortable. Is it fear? If it insecurity? You need to get to the bottom of this!!
2016-03-27 02:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it, if you do you will not enjoy yourselves as you should. I think that the fact that both of you are virgins is a plus, you can feel more comfortable. The important thing is to communicate between yourselves, tell him what you like and ask him what he likes.
Believe me, if you really love each other you will find no problems, and after the first time, it's like the ad for pringles 'once you pop you can't stop' ;)
ahh, don't forget, do not tense up, it will make it painful for you, just relax and enjoy yourself.
congratulations for your marriage
2006-09-15 01:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by gremxulina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it... it will come natural to you and let it go with the flow...One thing, he may don't last the first time too long of a time but after that be ready for longer sessions
2006-09-15 01:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent a porno movie and that will give you tips if you are unsure what to do.
But........I think you'll figure it out. The nervousness is part of the fun.
To break the edge, I would start by taking a hot shower together and let things go from there.
Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 02:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing really to help you with. Everyone was in your shoes at one time. You have to put him at ease, he is in worst shape than you. Men have a hard time as virgins: Plus you can't be sure he is a virgin just because he said so.
2006-09-15 01:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by geoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! THAT SOUNDS GREAT! I AM IMPRESSED THAT THE TWO OF YOU DECIDED TO WAIT UNTIL YOU TWO BECAME MARRIED! I WOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT IT, MAKING LOVE TO THE ONE THAT YOU LOVE WILL COME TO THE TWO OF YOU NATURALLY! BUT WHY DON'T YOU GET SOME LUBRICATION, AND LET IT BOOST UP YOUR HONEYMOON EVEN MORE? YOU TWO CAN GET THAT KY WARMING 2-1 BODY MASSAGE & LUBRICANT GEL, AND HAVE A BLAST TOGETHER!
GOOD LUCK
AND
CONGRATULATIONS
ON YOUR MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!
I HOPE YOU AND YOUR NEW HUSBAND, HAS A GREAT TIME ON YOUR HONEYMOON!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 04:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by bigred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress. That is the great thing about the two of you remaining virgins-You guys get to learn and experience sex together!!!!!! Congrats!!!
2006-09-15 01:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first off congrats to ye both!
Well I would presume it should just come naturally - I mean you know what bits go where right?
Alternatively maybe rent a video to give yourself some ideas - I duno - the lovers guide or something to that effect?
2006-09-15 01:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋